Have a newish nanny for DS aged 3. She’s spending more time with him now it’s the holidays. The last three times she has been with him, he has wet himself. Not a lot, he has bladder control and stops himself, but enough to dampen his clothes and he's been absolutely dry for months. When I asked her whether she’d reminded him to go, she said she’d asked him but he said he didn’t want to go (this in in the house, not in the middle of nowhere with no loos).
Well DS will often says he doesn’t want to go when he needs to go but doesn’t want stop playing. He’s three! But you just have to got tell him to go and he will!
Then she announced that she had put a plate of biscuits out and she had only had two and he had eaten the rest. She said it as a complaint to me! I asked why she didn’t stop him if she thought it was too much (I don’t knos what she meant bh a plateful, I’ve never seen him do this but then I don’t put a plate of biscuits out as I don't eat them, I just give him his on a plate) and she just looked at me, didn’t say anything.
There are similar stories, silly things that DS will try and get away without doing, like washing his hands, but complies when you tell him.
DS is s very sweet boy. He might have a grumble but would never tantrum or anything if told to do or not to do something, so I don’t know what she’s scared of!
I was under the impression nannies looked after this sort of thing. Am i wrong?