Dilemma

[Jaxtellerswife]

I'm 6 weeks pregnant and we have two toddlers, a three year old and one year old. I also have a 13 year old stepson.
We decided to wait to tell them all about the pregnancy until after the 12 week scan if possible just to be safe. We've told a couple of choice family members which was fine until yesterday. My partner has told a family member but didn't say the crucial words 'please don't tell your kids yet in case they tell ours'
He called later to say please don't (after me nagging) and got an awkward pause followed by 'ok'.
I am not filled with confidence that they don't know and we are supposed to be meeting up Tuesday. I'm really worried their kids are going to tell ours before we've had the chance.
Im particularly sensitive to telling my stepson first at the right time.
Should we just give up waiting and tell them before Tuesday or go on hope that they won't?
If these kids know they will not keep it quiet, no chance!
This is our last child and my 3 year old will be so happy I want us to tell him ourselves

Definitely tell yours first.
Worse by far for them to hear it from someone else.Sounds like that may be going to happen: cause someone telling their DC not to tell yours surely isn't going to work.

I don't think it's a dilemma: if you think somebody may let the cat out of the bag on Tuesday but it's really important to you to be the one to tell your children first - well you'll have to tell them before then!

It's a bit of a risky game telling some people and not others and unfortunately this one's backfired. However, it's just a minor thing and it won't spoil anything. Congrats!

Thankyou yes I think it's logical to tell them. I had hoped my partner could manage a simple 'keep it to yourself' as asked but there you go eh.
I'll talk to my partner about how best to tell stepson. He used to be thrilled with this kind of news but teen hormones are strong in this house now lol. I'm just hoping he will be happy.
Thanks for clear opinions, it does help to get perspective from others

The long pause means they've already told their kids

That's what I think too!! Haha