if I brought your daughter to the cinema to meet a boy?

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My niece is 17 and quiet sensible. We have a nice relationship and she asks for my advice regularly. Last week she told me she was meeting a boy in the cinema on Friday but felt to awkward to tell her Mum or Dad. She's not being deceitful, it's just purely out of embarrassment. I told her he Mum would be ok with it and I'm sure she'd let her go but niece says she doesn't want a big deal made out of it. And of course asked me not to tell!

Her Dad works away so isn't around much and her Mum has to work late so last night my sister text me to ask could I drop my niece off at the cinema. I said yes but I'm now feeling a bit guilty. I know she wouldn't have been angry if my niece had just told her she was going with a boy but now I feel if it comes out later she will be. And if she finds out I knew and brought her doesn't that seem bad? I'm a terrible liar, hate doing it but before it didn't feel as bad and now I feel as if I'm enabling it!

My niece is 18 in December and I don't see anything wrong with it but I have a baby girl myself and I know I'd be disappointed if she couldn't tell me in a similar situation. At the same time, I could never break my nieces trust. Is this terrible of me? What should I do?

You're over-thinking it. Your niece is meeting a friend. That's what she's told you, that's what she's told her mum and that's what she's doing. She's 17. None of it is a big deal.

I agree you're overthinking it. You drop her at the cinema. She's meeting a boy. If it comes out, you say, yes, she told you, and that you assumed she'd mentione dit to her mum too by then.

There is nothing wrong with her going to the cinema with a boy. You are being a supportive aunt by giving her a lift.

And of course she asked me not to tell! She's seventeen??

My dd had her first boyfriend around that age. She didn't tell me about him until after she had been out with him a few times. Similar to your niece, she was self-conscious about it all.

You are the cool Aunt this is fine she is 17 she asked for a lift you gave her a lift she doesn't want to tell her parents she was on a date this In my limited experience is normal.

Sorry giving her a lift. Honestly don't feel guilty about any of it just be pleased she can tell you things