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Baconsarnies · 17/07/2018 21:22

My anxiety is through the roof right now my head hurts I feel sick I can't eat and I can't sleep I think I've done something terrible but something that I've needed to say.
Basically I have this friend( probably not anymore) she craves attention off men especially one who has money!! She's seeing this guy and I mean he's lovely adores her and her children, last year they had an argument and she really thought he was going to leave her so she went and got the coil out behind his back and has been trying to get pregnant after she realised it wasn't going to happen quickly she told him she was pregnant, (he said to her from the start he didn't want any children of his own but he will be there for her daughters) he did not take the news great at all she even went that step further and faked a pregnancy scan and sent it to him! Anyway she's agreed to get an "abortion" as he said he'll be willing to give it another go with her but slowly as she accused him of assaulting her which it came out that she actually done it to herself. She told him the abortion would cost £3,500 so he's obviously given her the money to which she went out and brought the new iPhone and went clothes shopping for herself all while pretending she was having the abortion! Now a year later she really is pregnant he has no idea she's been trying this whole time!! She said she wanted to wait until she was 5 months to tell him so it was too late to get an abortion I feel completely disgusted with this whole situation and I feel so sorry for him I've cried over this whole drama that he knows nothing about, until today. I told him she was pregnant, he went mental! I know I've completely portrayed my friend and I probably should have just kept out of it but the other side of me thinks I've done the right thing I mean this is someone's life she is completely messing with! She already has 3 children her 1st is living with his dad because she didn't want him the 2nd has only recently gone to live with her dad because she can't cope and the 3rd well her dad doesn't bother with her so she has no choice but to keep her at home, I've obviously spoken to her and said she isn't doing the right thing at all that she should concentrate on the children she has but she's so set in her ways! I know this whole right up is a bit patchy and probably doesn't make any sense I just really need to vent and I really don't have anyone else to talk to have I done the right thing or not I feel so terrible please help me!

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Halfblindbunny · 17/07/2018 21:26

It doesn't matter now if it was the right thing or not its done now. I would just walk away from this friendship and let them get on with it themselves. Not your circus not your monkeys.

FairyAnn · 17/07/2018 21:26

Awful situation and I can't offer much except a hand hold. Some people will tell you that you should have stayed out of it, but honestly, I would have felt the same as you

TeenTimesTwo · 17/07/2018 21:26

I'm hopeless at this but Flowers

I don't think there is a 'right' thing to do, just a poor set of options, so I see why you have done what you have.

But you are not responsible for any of it. The guy could use a condom to be really sure not to get someone pregnant. Your friend sounds a mess. But you are not responsible.

pinkelephant59 · 17/07/2018 21:31

I think you've done the right thing. your xfriend has lied to her partner and lets be honest its a lie that's going to have far reaching consequences for her partner and her unborn baby. Ok partner may change his mind once he has a baby of his own, or he is going to feel trapped in the relationship if he stays and baby is likely to grow up being resented and unloved

squirrelnutkins1 · 17/07/2018 21:57

You did the right thing 👍🏻

Singlenotsingle · 17/07/2018 22:01

Sorry for that poor baby.

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