Taking 1yo to wedding

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How do people handle taking a toddler (DS 14 months) to a wedding?

He goes to bed at 7, will need a nap at 1ish in the afternoon normally.

I’m worried about getting him down for a nap somewhere during the day without missing anything...he struggles to nap unless in his cot.

For the night, what does everyone do? Make them stay up until they conk out somewhere or leave early when you see they’re getting too tired even if it’s 8pm?!

We have a room booked so not like we have to drive home or anything but still...

Forgot to say...it’s my SIL wedding so we really should be there for the whole thing.

Wedding 1. We took DS to a soft play in the morning, let him run about like a loon, fed him an early lunch then got showered and changed and then DH pushed him in the buggy round the venue until he went to sleep while I finished getting ready. We sat at the back of the ceremony with DS fast asleep in the buggy!
Wedding 2 he as a page boy so had to be awake, DH did roughly the same thing but earlier while I got ready with the bride. He got him to sleep in the car on the way to the venue that time then woke him up as the bride arrived. He toddled slightly sleepily down the aisle, perked up when he saw balloons in the venue and had to be removed by DH about 30 seconds into the ceremony!
Try to position yourself so that whoever is least close to the bride and groom (probably you if the wedding is SIL) can make a rapid exit if the toddler is an all noisy. Establish first if they will find giggling and babbling cute and welcome or just as annoying as screaming and act accordingly.
For bedtime, ours tends to go lateish anyway, at wedding 1 DH took him back to our room at the venue about 8.30 and I took him a plate of buffet food over and offered to swop an hour later - he declined (not a big party fan). At wedding 2 we had a bit of travel, DS lasted longer, about 9pn he went into his PJs and was practically falling asleep in people’s arms on the dance floor so DH took him to the hotel - DS fell asleep in the car and I then went to the hotel at the end of the night in the planning wddding transport.
Worked really well, DH would rather be somewhere quiet with DS anyway and he got loads of credit from my family for how well he took care of DS and letting me enjoy the party. Admittedly this doesn’t work so well if you both really want to stay all night!