Would be grateful for some advice from anyone experiencing something similar..
Bit of background; I was bullied throughout my schools days, high school etc and as a result I'm a massive people pleaser, friends have been known to take advantage of my ways... I received counselling 10 years ago & managed to cut some of these people from my life but I find this hard especially as some I've known some since college & are constantly in touch regarding meet ups etc... These college girls (6 in total) are all toxic in their own way i.e never agree to meeting up unless on their terms, not one of them came to my sons Christening recently, that's fair enough but in return one of them in particular expects me to go above and beyond for her, picking her up en route to places without offering petrol with zero thanks (& a lot of the time it's out of my way) Other things too but I could be here all day. I've slowly tried to withdraw from them & have started putting boundaries in place, making myself less available etc but I'm beginning to find them a hindrance with constant WhatsApp's back & forth, my children take up so much of my time already. I know people are not perfect & I'm not expecting that in a friendship, I just feel we have grown apart & they take me for granted. I do have other friendships which are reciprocal, respectful & mutual in give & take, but would love some advice on how to withdraw from these negative friendships. Thanks x