Would you move house because your kids wanted to?

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We have a lovely home decorated exactly how we want it. Our area (big town) has become quite rough in the last few years (we have lived here 15 years) and my teens don't feel safe going out locally. As a result, i have to give them lifts to their friends' areas- mainly villages- where they happily hang out all day. They talk a lot about moving somewhere nicer.
I used to love this area, but they are right, it has changed. I like the idea of living in a village, but realistically am a town/city girl at heart and not too fussed about moving.
We have casually browsed on Rightmove, but the houses are horrible and cannot live up to our home.
Would you suck it up and stay put or look to move?

How old are they? How long will they be living with you? Do you still feel safe?

An interesting conundrum - most teens I know would prefer living in a town to a village!! I felt so trapped in my little village once I was about 15.
Difficult to say unless I was in your situation, but I don’t think I’d move just for that reason. Not unless it was seriously affecting the mental health of my children. What ages are they? Early or mid teens? They might change their minds in a year or two. Can you see yourselves living in you current house for many years, even once children have left home?

No I wouldn't move unless you were really worried about them. It won't be that long until they either move out or are looking for work, which would probably be easier in the town.

I wouldn't move, if I was happy in the house. You would probably find that if you moved out to a village, the DC would soon regret it and want to move back, and you'd be back to Sq. 1.

They are mid teens and yes, potentially could be gone in 5 years time.

No I wouldn't in your scenario, I'd carry on with the lifts. Teens move out eventually.

I wouldn't move just because the kids want to. As you say in a few years time they may be gone for good and you may not be living where you want to be. Is there another naicer area in your present town that would suit you all?

If it's s safety issue like you say then yes I'd consider it.

If you take the teens perspective out of it how do you feel about living bing there in the medium to longer term? If the town is going to become progressively more run down then you might get a better price for your property now than in 7 -10 years. What is the cost of moving on both financial terms and also friendships etc that you have built up locally. How would you manage in your older years in a village ie do they have a GP, shops pharmacy etc? I love where I love at the moment but reckon I’ll be moving once we retire as it’s go no public transport or hospital nearby

Do they have friends round or not atm? Could part if it be embarrasment about the area.
I used to rarely have friends round as a teen as I lived on a HA estate and my friends were mainly MC living in nice areas. I know its silly now but I was really self concious about it growing up.

Do they still 'play out'? (Not sure about exact ages)...I used to get bullied by the local kids for being 'posh'.