Would you have told your partner ?

[Daniellebt]

About 2 months ago I had a blazing row with my partner ( a one off ) I was really worried about him as he was so mad and driving to see his best friend. I called his best friend to try and get him to calm down ( partner doesn't mind this ).. however his best mate said " I think you got with the wrong guy" insinuating I should have picked him !
So, I thought about telling my partner but I thought maybe I'm over thinking things ? Maybe it was a joke and I don't want to rock the boat and be accused of being weird and making a big deal ?
Anyway fast forward to now, more strange things have happened and I've had to tell him everything. He was incredibly angry I didn't tell him at the time as he went on to lend his loser friend about £300
His sister said I should have told him ASAP
I feel incredibly guilty as he is recovering from 2nd open heart surgery this year and he doesn't need this stress . Mixed reviews from friends . Wondering on your thoughts ? Personally I'd be pissed too but I had my naive reasons not to.. thank you x

It obviously depends n the context and the tone of voice etc, but I think it's a bit of a leap from ' I think you got with the wrong guy' to 'it should have been me'.

He could simply have meant 'if you're upset about this (whatever the argument was about) then you're with the wrong guy, because this is how he is' .

I agree with Fifth.
What other 'strange ' things have happened ?

I wouldn't go where you've gone with that statement either. Seems more likely that he meant I'm not the person to calm him down/ he's with one of the other guys

I'm with fifth too. That's quite a jump from that statement alone.

Thanks guys , sorry I should have made it more clear, it was directly meant as in I should have picked him. He disagreed with my partner , he was also mad at him and that's when he said it . So after that he started borrowing money off my bf .
He then walked me to my hotel accommodation in London whilst my partner was in hospital. I told my partner I wasn't comfortable with that .. he also said he didn't need to contact my partner (he's had his second open heart surgery ) he just wanted to be there to comfort me. So lots of little things have made me realise that he did mean what he said and that he was really out of Order
My partner thinks I should have told him at the time but I didn't want to think I was over thinking something or causing drama ... if tang makes sense x