Pregnant at the same time as my sister

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My sister has just told our family that she's pregnant with her first baby but she was met with a mixed response, some happy, some not sure and some definitely not happy (not in the best position to have a baby but it'll all work out).
I've not long found out I'm pregnant in fact I found out the day she announced hers.
Now this is not my first and I know the reaction to my news is going to be different from how they reacted to hers.
I just don't want anything to ruin her experience of her first pregnancy/baby.
So should I tell anyone or just keep it quiet (for as long as possible)? WWYD?

Are you close to your sister? Could you tell her first and focus on the positives of having cousins the same age. You shouldn't have to keep it quiet but I can see why you are worried how your sister would feel if family reacts differently.

We have quite a big age gap but have grown closer now we're both adults. Perhaps if I just told her and left everyone else to find out later that might be better. It's because of the reactions and her situation that I didn't want to step in on what should be a happy time for her. Well hopefully she'll be happy to have someone to share it with, thanks for the advice.

I found out I was pregnant with my first the day after my cousin (who is like my sister) announced she was pregnant with her first.

I suppose the difference with us is that everyone was happy for both of us, we're both settled etc. What I did was told her before everyone else. I think I told my brother, my parents and her at about 8 weeks and told everyone else after the scan.

She wasn't bothered in the slightest she was delighted for me and excited to have someone to go through it all with. Enough of a gap that there was no feeling of 'thunder stealing'. It's lovely now, we both have little girls who were born just 12 weeks apart plus she's just had her second and my second is due in 10 weeks. So it happened again It's been really nice both times to have someone so close to moan to, discuss the cringey/gross bits that you wouldn't with someone not so close, text in the night when you're both up doing feeds and generally support each other.

Are you close? If so I'd maybe wait a week or two then tell her before you make a big announcement.

Our parents definitely weren't happy for her and made no attempt to hide it.
I think I will tell her first, I don't think she will mind me being pregnant as well. It's more about everyone else's reaction to my news, I worry that it might hurt her. Maybe I should tell them individually quietly rather than a big announcement.
She's due the beginning of December and I'm the end of January so I think it'll be enough time in between plus there'll be Christmas and New Years to break it up a bit more. So hopefully she won't find my pregnancy takes away from her birth.
That's so nice to have someone to go through it all with, was it planned to have the 2nd together too? Your girls will grow up like sisters too, that's lovely.
We're closer now, there's quite a big age gap and it's only just now we're both adults (and she's having a baby) that we have things in common we talk more than even just 2 years ago.
Thanks for your advice

I think that sounds like a good plan, tell your sister then your parents with no-one else there. Your parents can be happy for you (because it is happy news and you are entitled to some excitement!) without worrying how yours sister is feeling.

My and my DSis found out her first then me, maybe 2-3 months between the kids being born in the end

Tell her first, then everyone else - if the family are not being supportive it may be helpful for her to have someone who will be close and supportive throughout -

It was really nice and nice to see them growing up together now close in age (the sentence I missed writing...)

Not me but my mum found out she was pregnant with me, not in the best of circumstances (she was very young at the time). Her older sister (my aunt) had been trying unsuccessfully for a baby with her husband for a while and my mum felt dreadful as her pregnancy with me was unplanned so she kept it quiet.

Anyway a week later my aunt found out she was pregnant! My cousin and I were born 12 days apart and we grew up really close.

Agree re telling your sister first. It will all work out though.

Thank you, I will have individual conversations with my sister and my parents. True, it is happy news but I have children already I don't mind not having the fuss. I do worry how she's feeling though as pregnancy can be tough enough without all her other worries.

There will be a couple of months between ours as well. Yes I am trying, I've been texting and calling her making sure she's ok. I went to her scans with her and am going to the next one too.

It's so nice that your mum and aunts story worked out. I do really love that ours will be so close in age.