Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Am I right for feeling anxious?

2 replies

MummyAndSon17 · 21/06/2018 22:18

So basically I told my ex I don't want him to see my son and I blocked all ways of him contacting me.
I felt like I had no choice as he was drinking around my son, he had previously threatened me on more then 1 occasion, he always wanted control over me and always expected me to travel to him when he wanted to see my son (we don't live in the same area)

Mentally I was just getting worse and he was constantly bringing me down despite my best efforts to keep the relationship civil, but it is just too much of a toxic situation.
I just felt like I would be doing better for my son (and myself) to stop contact before my son got to an age where he was old enough to know that daddy doesn't treat mummy very nice or daddy drinks around me.

But now I'm just starting to feel anxious that he will take me to court and a complete stranger will tell me I'm wrong for making the difficult decision that I did and tell him he can see my son. He's not on the birth certificate btw.

Can someone please help, I don't know what to do in this situation, I feel as though I'm constantly looking over my shoulder.
Thanks sorry for the long message, I've been holding this in for so long I just needed to get it all out Smile

OP posts:
NotSinisterAtAll · 22/06/2018 13:07

If he’s not on the birth certificate he doesn’t have parental responsibility or legal rights to custody or visitation.

kitkatsky · 22/06/2018 14:35

I'd feel anxious about this too. I'd be thinking very carefully here about how your son might feel when he's grown up. My ex is also emotionally abusive but my DD's relationship with him is healthy. You say he drinks in front of DS- do you mean he has a drinking problem or just that you don't agree with him drinking when looking after him, since I think most people would think this a non issue unless the drinking is extreme. As pp said, if he's not on BC the court won't rule in his favour, but I'm not clear on what would happen if he could prove parentage at some date

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread