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Ltb? Help me sort my life out

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usernamechangedforthis · 15/06/2018 22:16

At what point do you call a relationship quits?

I love my DP dearly but I don't know if it's 'enough'.

Backstory

Haven't really had sex since DD was born (3 years). He says it's because of his appearance (he's not obese, chubby) he went to counselling of other issues which may have been related (his family are crazy) to how he feels and emotions etc. But stopped going because it was costing us so much money we just could not afford it. It's making me feel like I'm unloved and unattractive. I've tried talking to him so many times, but we just go round in circles. He assured me it's not me and he loves me. He's not very affectionate by any standards anymore. I just feel taken for granted.

I'm desperate for it to work, I don't want to break up my family but I don't know if I can settle for this? He is such a good dad, helps around the house etc. Everyone thinks we have the best relationship, he wants to start planning our wedding for next year. I just don't know what I'm meant to do. Am I expecting too much? I know it's not all hearts and rainbows and we do get on so well.

My head is scrambled. I have no one irl to talk too.

Sorry for the long post.

OP posts:
Foxthefoxoff · 16/06/2018 21:50

Do not get married with this issue unresolved. You need to kindly tell your partner that things are unacceptable to you and unless he whole heartedly commits to overcoming his issues, there will be no future for you both.

He has stated that the issues are his own insecurities, but this is in turn is causing you pain, unhappiness and making you feel insecure.

Life is too short for this. Make a stand. It could go either way, but you will not be miserable and regretting it in 5-10 years time as you may if you let it ride.

Thanks good luck

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