Are we invited to the wedding?

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Unsure how to approach this: someone I've been friends with since high school, and who I see several times a year as a group to catch up, is getting married in about 5 months time.
Our group who meet up several times a year is about 6 people, and of those 6, 4 have had official invites to the wedding. Two of us have had nothing yet we've been invited on and are going on the hen do.
Do we ask the bride if we are actually invited or not? Do we go on the hen regardless and then just face (or ignore?) the awkwardness of not having had invites?
Might we just be invited to the evening do and not have heard yet? I would be totally fine just going to the evening, not upset about that at all, do people tend to do two sets of invites, one for the service/whole day and then one for evening guests only later? Is 5 months before the wedding too early to expect to know?
Any advice gratefully received!!

I'd just ask her to be honest

All the invitations we posted to one specific postcode area (think BN2 for example) went astray. I didn't find out until my hen night when a long standing friend said she thought it was odd that she and a couple of others had been invited to the hen but not the wedding.

Stranger things have happened. I'd ask.

I think I would have to politely check. I have no idea how to phrase it though!

I can't imagine being invited on a hen weekend but not to the wedding- that would be quite rude IMO.

Ask her.

I would need to know and ask before the hen. A friend of mine had girls at her hen that were only going to the evening do and had no invites at the time of the hen... And they assumed they would be there all day, booked hotels etc.
Hope it can be explained!

Ok thank you all, deffo need to ask her.
Any ideas on how to beat approach this?? Shall I just text her? How do I phrase this??

Ask invites might have gone astray. I know someone who didn't get an invite though her sil wedding (he HD's sis so would absolutely be on the guest list). Turns out invites were quite thick and they put normal sized stamps on. Some got through and some were held back by post office. Many of the guests got the 'fine' from post office but as they weren't expecting anything ignored it but it was the wedding invite.

Id ask one of the friends who are going to ask her but then im a coward like that

Can you say something like 'Look, I'm a bit confused. You've invited me to your hen do which is lovely, but it's a bit unusual as you don't seem to have invited me to the wedding?'

@Smurfy23 I think I'm going to go with your plan to be honest! Will get one of the other girls to ask for me and be a wuss!!

I’d send her a text or speak to her in person. TeensTimesTwos text is fine but I’d add a smiley face or two.

Another poster on here had the same problem. Turned out that the bride had taken it for granted that the OP knew she was invited and didn't need a formal invitation.

I managed to be a grown up and ask in the end evening invites haven't gone out yet, so we're invited for the evening which is fine by me (other friend is a bit put out but never mind) so all ok! She felt really bad about it bless her.
Thanks all for the advice!

Maybe they were waiting to see whether anyone declined the day because you were on reserve list?