wedding invite

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My niece is getting married next year. She has told me that our 3 Boys are invited but not their Partners. I have said I won't go along with that, and now its WW3. Thoughts please !!!!!

Its her wedding. She can ask who she likes. I'm guessing she doesn't know the boys partners very well and doesn't want to pay for them. Fair enough I say.

It's her wedding, not yours. You seriously demand people invite who you want to their party? Wow. I'd have no problem telling you to sling your hook and not come. You won't go along with it, so don't. Don't go.

Why won’t you go along with that? I think it’s perfectly reasonable to invite your cousins but not their partners. Unless they’ve all been together 20 years and have kids etc?

She’s probably glad you ‘wo t be going along with that’. Who do you think you are?

No great etiquette on your part sorry to say. I would apologise and then decide if you still want to attend. The invitation is completely down to them.

You don't get to say you won't go along with it. It's her wedding.

My DB had similar. He invited Aunt, Uncle and cousins to his wedding. He sis not invite cousins partner as he had not met this person before. Quite small wedding and both DB and SIL only wanted people they knew in attendance.

Aunt, Uncle and cousins didn't come because DB wouldn't capitulate to their demands. Aunt had offered to pay for the extra meal and DB had made it clear it was not about money but about who they wanted there. Completely bonkers and cutting their noses off to spite their faces.

I fear you may be similar OP.

I'm cringing for you. How ridiculous you sound. As a PP says, I bet your niece is secretly delighted you won't be coming.

I have said I won't go along with that, and now its WW3.
And you are surprised by that?

Well I bet she's glad she won't have to pay for you to attend after that strop. How silly.

So politely decline the invitation you ungrateful cow! But seriously, you really don't get a say.

If I was them I'd uninvite you.

Wow what a lovely aunty!

I'm doing the same with my cousins and their girlfriends/boyfriends as they don't yet live together (or I'll end up with a million people at my wedding), can't they hang out together since they are siblings and you are all invited as the family unit?

This cannot be real.

when you say partners do you mean wives or girlfriends?

or boyfriends

Cousins (unless they are close) don't often get an invitation these days.
How dare you try and dictate the guest list at a relative's wedding? Bizarre behaviour on your part.

People like you are the reason I'm fucking stressing out about who to invite and who the fuck not to invite!!!!

IT'S HER PARTY, NAE YOURS!

What does “not going along with that” mean? Where’s your power to influence coming from other?

I didn’t invite any of my cousins because we aren’t close and I hadn’t seen them in 5 years or more before my lovely small wedding. I don’t even know the names of any of their partners...

Your reaction is pretty disproportionate imo and I think you should apologise.

Not your wedding =not your choice who is invited~ despite how much you protest.

Just don’t go if it upsets you too much.

Unless you are paying the £150+ cost per person - not your choice. Cousins partners are not compulsory invites when you are on a budget. Wind your neck in and except it's not up to you. Be happy for your niece not a bitch

What do you mean by partners? If it's a current fling, or a teenager's girl/boyfriend, you are exaggerating. If they are life partners, married couple, then fair enough.
Yes, it's the bride and groom's wedding and they invite who they want. It's also your own right not to attend.

It's more understandable when people don't invite children, but if it's not convenient for the parents, they just decline. Not inviting husbands or wives, or near- husbands and wives is just rude. Starting WW3 about it is childish.

I believe I should have added more detail. In order not to upset or disrupt the arrangements, I simply suggested that we would find our own accommodation, attend the actual ceremony, come back after the meal for the evening reception, thus incurring no additional cost, and they would be able to invite other people, not on the list. Some of your replies are simple abuse, the sort of abuse I would expect to see on FB, Twitter, Snapchat etc.It isn't hard to understand the #MGTOW movement.