Found out friends OH is regularly taking drugs

[Beeperbird]

My DH was on a stag do with his mates this weekend. DS & I stayed over at another one of the wives houses (let’s call her A) as we’ve become good friends over the years and fancied a girly night.
Her OH (let’s call him B) got into a bit of trouble (lost wallet, keys, disappeared from the stag do for hours) and she found out and obv she got worried. This has happened before and he’s got known problems with MH issues and alcohol.
All turned out ok, he reappeared lunchtime and after a heated debate things settled.
After I knew she was ok I headed home, to find DH already there. Had a chat about the stag do - at which point he said, ‘yeah, B went off on one as he took coke again’.
You should have seen my face! I was shocked as DH has never really mentioned drug taking in his group before, other than them smoking weed when younger and trying out a tablet of something at uni.
I then questioned him, and apparently this is a common occurrence that B takes something when they go out.
Now I’ve had a lot of heart to hearts with A and she’s never mentioned drugs (again other than what I said above). What I don’t know is whether to tell her what DH has said? My gut says yes but she’s currently 32 weeks pregnant with twins (her 2nd & 3rd DCs) and I don’t know if now is the right time - but is any time the right time? She might know already but be too embarrassed to say perhaps. Also haven’t asked DH yet if he’s happy for me to tell her (not that it should really matter)
What would you do?

I think it's quite common for people to do coke on a night out? I don't really know how you'd bring it up, I don't think you can tell on someone for doing coke.

That's not to say I agree with it or anything I just don't think it's that big a deal to bring up if you don't know her views on it. If he's had issues with it before and she's mentioned it then i'd tell her

I agree. It's one night out, not necessarily indicative of general behaviour... that said if he's an arse in general it might be worth broaching in case it's a real ongoing thing.

I know lots of people that do coke on a night out.

It's really no big deal and is none of your business.

I think it's quite common for people to do coke on a night out?

^Dont know where your from but round my parts it certainly isn’t

Apparently it is really common nowadays.

Wow ok, shows how out of touch I am then! maybe I’m overreacting to the norm. I just thought as she’s supporting him through the MH and alcohol issues she should know if there is something else added to the mix as well

@greendale17 Bristol and have lived in London and Manchester and all 3 cities it's been very common

I think she probably
Knows and if she doesn’t, it’s none of your business.
And yes, it’s common

Alcohol and coke together isn't a good combo it seems.

I'm as shocked as you op, I was given the news that my exh takes it regularly and was so angry.

Yes more common in cities than rural. I was offered it a lot more when I was younger & out on a big night in Manchester than now when I'm at a village garden party with dc!

I'd assume his wife knows & it's an issue where they need to decide their own boundaries & acceptabilities. I know I wouldn't want dh doing it particularly if I was heavily pg with twins!

Yes more common in cities than rural. I was offered it a lot more when I was younger & out on a big night in Manchester than now when I'm at a village garden party with dc!

I'd assume his wife knows & it's an issue where they need to decide their own boundaries & acceptabilities. I know I wouldn't want dh doing it particularly if I was heavily pg with twins!

Quite common and bit pathetic.

Don't get involved, she'll know anyway.

I wouldn't be shocked by it now. I was a bit at first when I realised how many people I know take or took it in their 30's and 40's. Then I discovered loads of people do! I knew lots of people took drugs in their teens and 20's but I sort of expected people to have grown out of it. Apparently not! Anyway I wouldn't say anything, I'm sure she knows.