Job / DH / general pickle

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I am a teacher in a private school - I was part time and have been asked to cover the HOD full time next year for maternity. It's relevant to mention I do not like the school or the job at all, but I am fond of my current HOD who is going on mat leave. I am not really motivated to be HOD in general and just like to teach (long term). I have verbally agreed to this but do not have a written contract or a salary offer yet.

Today, through a complicated chain of events I have been offered an outstanding package at an international school for 2 year starting in August. I have 2 DC and they would be eligible for a free place at the school which would be an excellent advantage (bi-lingual, smaller classes, weekly swimming).
My DH thinks we could turn it around in the time and he would like to go (we have lived in this country before).

If I wasn't tied to my current job I would go in a heartbeat as it would be a fantastic thing for my family and me. But I have verbally agreed to do job A and I know they would struggle to get someone else to fill the job at late notice (although not impossible).

I know in my heart of hearts that I should stick with my job because I have said I would do it and it wouldn't be fair. But I feel so sad at the thought of turning down job B and potentially improving the lives of my entire family.

Wwyd

You know what will make you happiest. Do that.

They’ll find another maternity cover. Go.

I think it would be ridiculous to turn down Job B. Verbal agreement is nothing. You don't like the job anyway. They'd jack you in a heartbeat if they got a better offer, so why not you?

Are you contractually able to hand in your notice now to leave at the end of term? I know that state schools have quite long lead time/notice dates. If you can, I’d do it, particularly as your DH is on board. Loyalty to your HoD is nice but if you don’t like the job or school otherwise, I think you’re better getting out of it! Re the verbal agreement, I wouldn’t feel too trapped by that. Do you think the school leadership would feel beholden to you in the same way? I would have thought that’s unlikely...

Just go. Don't guilt-trip yourself.

Thank you.
I agree that they would ditch me quickly - me and the slt don't see eye to eye on how a school should actually be run! They are using me because I am already there and that's the only reason.
I just feel like I'm acting without integrity even though I really want to go for job B!

You are overthinking this. Go for job B- you will regret it if you don't.

Don’t hesitate even for a second, just go.

You’re just another cog to them, you have to look after your life and family first. I’m actually so jealous of your opportunity! Grab with both hands.

Job b , lots of positives for your family

Oh wow thank you everyone I thought everyone would say I should stick with job A.

Contractually I could be in a sticky position - they have not given me a contract for the maternity cover at all but I still have my contract for this year and I have missed the date to resign. But in my experience people who want to go tend to just go as really what will the school do about it?

Million percent job B. Honestly don't even give it a second thought - such a great opportunity for you!

Eek thank you mumsnet I think you've helped me make up my mind. So excited for the next two years! M

Job B it is then.

Good luck!

Job B. Just go, go, go!

Ahaha thank you- I'm now feeling slightly less awful about the e-mail I am about to send to make a meeting to quit my job...
Then just my entire life to rearrange in order to start new job on other side of the world in 2 months

Please please go job B, don’t even think or question it.... I was in a similar position and have always regretted taking the verbal agreement option/job A....... have an amazing time.