Number 3 or vasectomy?

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My hubby has offered to have a vasectomy to help me with annoyances causes by contraception, however, I still feel like there may be room for a number 3.
My hubby already has 3, 1 from a previous relationship, and says it's enough (but if I really wanted a 3rd we'd make it work)
Having number 3 would change our life drastically (from what we currently know)

Pros and cons please (be honest )

If you’re unsure perhaps just use contraception for a bit and reflect on it.

Do you have plenty of money and time for your DC (all three in DH’s case)? 3 DC (4 for DH) would be more and more expensive as they got older.

Do you both WoH? Have you had any family help with the DC?

Harder to WoH with 3DC if no help.

I have 3 - I was happy with 2 but DH wanted a 3rd.

For me the pros are - my gorgeous snuggly boy!

Cons - car choices reduced, car seats, who has to sit in the middle seat, whose turn it is to sit wherever, size of boot required to get suitcases in for 5!

Going on any kind of package holiday is impossible - they cater for 4 not 5. Plus unless you have a really small age gap then DC1 and DC3 never quite on the same page for what they want to be doing.

Food portions made for 4 not 5. We buy industrial bulk from Costco.

The nappy years seem to go on forever!

There is always someone to have an argument with! The combinations are always evolving!

Number 3 child seems to break whatever lasted quite well through DC1 and DC2 - toys, beds, prams, my pelvic floor ......

We can afford it. Both work full time and would put dc3 in nursery as we did with dc1 and dc2. (Don't judge please)
We've just moved into a much bigger house but still only 3 beds so dc3 will have to share with dc1(8) or dc2(5) depending on whether it's a boy or a girl.
Both kids really want dc3 I'm just really torn.
Holidaying is a big thing (she says whilst currently posting from a sunbed) for us as are our regular trips to restaurants or pubs

I worry I'll regret it once I'm older... I think that's what's bothering me

Pros - Christmas magic lasts much longer, so does the tooth fairy, Disney characters, and all other magical times.
DC3 has 4 people looking out for them always, even when they think they’re quite grown up.

Cons - hotels, food, theme parks always seem to assume 2 adults and 2 DC. Once you step outside that the deals are less good, though tbh we’ve always found villas work better for us as a family than hotels anyway (mainly because we don’t want to dress up and eat at set times every day).

My DC3 is just 3 months so I don't yet know about holidays etc (altho we did have to upsize the car)

Decision to have 3rd child was emotional rather than practical - If we'd thought of all the practical things then it didn't make sense! (Cost, car, space in house)

It just felt right to have another and I love the fact we have 3DC. DH getting the snip soon though as we feel 3 is enough

Maybe wait a bit and see how you feel in 6 months / a year ?

How much contact do you have with your dh's dc1? Is s/he also sharing a room regularly with one of your dc? If you had dc3 would that mean you wouldn't get 4 dc in your car?

We are considering dc3. We have same number in our family. Together we have DD's ages 2 and 5 months. DH also has a dd aged 22. So no concerns about sleeping arrangements for eldest.

My major concern is my age. I'm 38. Higher risk of miscarriage and disability. We had some dramas with bleeding after the birth of dd2.

If you can afford it go for it. Houses and cars can change. Holidays can still happen. Your dc seem eager too.