What to do

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So here goes I moved into my current home about 18 months ago, it's a mid terrace house so I have neighbours either side. Anyways there was an issue with my neighbour around 8 months ago when there was an accusation made I "fancy" her dh. May I add I don't speak to her or her dh and I don't really know them. This accusation came as a shock to me, but we seemed to have cleared any misunderstandings up and simply put it down to people stirring. We laughed and agreed if there was any other problems just to knock on and have a chat about it. So as I say I don't particularly speak to my neighbour, maybe a quick hi now and again. I never see her dh and when I do I don't speak to him whatsoever. Anyways some old friend of mine rang me up and told me to check my WhatsApp. There was a screenshot of a private inbox message from my neighbours account warning my friend to watch her dh around me as when I moved in next door to her I was after hers until she came round and put me in my place! Apparently she had threatened me to keep away. I am furious as I have never ever spoke about her or her dh I have never ever flirted spoken to or even looked at her dh! I don't even know why this has even happened when she was the person who accused me of fancying her dh over some paranoid insecure feeling she had! Now I just don't know what to do not only is she basically slagging me off, behind my back, over a false accusation which had no truth in it whatsoever, but now I'm feeling so uncomfortable in my own home. I don't even want to be here. Do i confront her? I don't particularly want the drama but I don't want people dirtying my name either. The message I was sent was so nasty and so vicious and I haven't even done anything wrong. What should I do

Sorry to hear you are having some bother.

Can I ask how your neighbour knows your friend and whether she has sent this message to anyone else?

Options:-

I guess you could show her the message and ask what's going on?

You could ignore it and hope it stops

Move (if you are that unhappy - not that you should have to move but ultimately it's your happiness).

Speak to her husband with a friend of yours present to get to the cause

Hope these options help. But any confronting should be done with someone with you.

Thanks for your response orphanblackfan and she noes my friend because we all live on a housing estate where everyone knows everyone it's a small area. I'm not sure if she's sent this message to anyone else either or what other nasty things could be getting said about me. I guess you are right any confrontation I should have someone with me. It's just really upset me tbh getting accused in the first place was bad enough without this. I have had anxiety and depression and this has just made me feel pretty stressed. It's hard to ignore when it's your own neighbour. I think I might just have to ignore it because I can't be dealing with any drama or neighbour wars lol thanks for your response

No worries and good luck :)

Yes tell her to stop contacting people and telling them lies cause ure insecure and just so u know ure dh is ugly I would not go anywhere near that he myt be ure type but he's not every person that moves in so stop telling people that I fancuy totally embarrassed for people to think I would go with him please stick up for ureself put ure big girl pants on and say what I just told u with attitude she will be mortified when she goes back in house u won't hear her tell anyone else also Tell her u will everyone that asks the same thing her husband has had his eye on u n she can't stand it she's a drama queen go out bold and Tel her straight if u want to live without hassle she will see u don't want her husband

Goodness, even if you did fancy him what has that got to do with her? Doesnt mean you are ever going to do anything about it and surely he would have to fancy you back. I guess he must have form maybe and this has made her a bit deranged.? I would ask her to stop posting this stuff whilst trying to stay calm and rational. I would also strictly avoid both of them going forward, you dont need this rubbish.
Do you have a live-in partner? Maybe shes projecting how she would behave if she was single!

May I just add with us being neighbours we hear things n I know she's had dv with her dh aswell so now I want a woman beater! It's been 5 days now she still hasn't knocked on. Part of me wants to confront her other part of me thinks f it let her run her little mouth. It's already been put on fb so the damage to my reputation has already been done. And everyone knows me so I guess it's up to them what to believe. If u saw the state of her violent dh u would see why he chose my neighbour to get with, they are both on the same level looks wise, I wud give them both a 3 out of ten n that's being generous 😂. Also the timing it's been done because it's half term back to school runs on Monday so we will see eachother 2twice a day at least. I know she's lying n so does she. Hate neighbours like that what's wrong with knocking on the door and having a convo. Insecure bitch she is I actually feel sorry for her thanks for all your kind responses and just to clarify I think he's a minger so she really doesn't have anything to worry about hahaha