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Friend isn’t talking to me and has blocked me on all social media

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Belleandbill · 27/05/2018 15:42

Somebody I know has all of a sudden decided to completely cut me out of her life with no word of warning! I hadn’t spoken to her since beginning of April then I had sent her message mid April with no response (fair enough I thought, life is busy) then last weekend I realised she’s blocked me on Instagram and so I messaged her on FB and had no response. Messaged again, nothing. I don’t understand it. We haven’t shared a bad word between us and it’s really upsetting me. I’m recovering from a serious illness and mentioned that in my msg to her and she’s just ignored it. She’s also blocked me on her business profile too. It’s so very strange. If I’ve done something then just tell me so we can at least work things through... has this ever happened to you and how did you resolve it?

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Moominfan · 27/05/2018 15:55

So sorry this has happened. Beating yourself up with whys won't make you feel any better. Do you have any other friends you can reach out to

Usernamehere · 28/05/2018 23:36

My friends did exactly the same thing to Me! We was all In a click there was 4 of us. All knew eachother for years and grew up together. Regularly got together, never really any drama or bs we all got along really well or so I thought. Then one by one they stopped calling round or responding to my msgs which like you I thought was abit weird but life can be busy so I didn't think much of it. Then months went by, and I was thinking wtf have I done something wrong. So I msged them all individually hey how's u not seen u for a while we all need a catch up. They would read my msgs and not respond. In the end I asked them if I did something wrong same thing ignored me. Then a few months later saw one of my friends in the street and she ignored me and walked past me! I was so upset. It's been about 2 years now and I have never found out why or what is wrong. Since then they have tried to reconnect with me but I just don't feel it's worth the hassle of being treated so badly. On the other hand maybe it wasn't something that I did or u did maybe your friends have family problems or something else going on. Either way if they don't wana no then u need to move on. I hope that ur ok.

Nb65988 · 31/05/2018 08:16

Don't waste ure energy only be around people that are there for u

redcarbluecar · 31/05/2018 08:21

If you've made an effort to contact her and been ignored, I think that's all you can do, but it is hurtful. Has she got form for suddenly ending friendships, do you know? Any chance that pressure from a partner might be a factor?

TomHardyswife · 31/05/2018 08:36

Yes it's happened to me too.

DH and I were best mates with another couple for years. God parents to each other's kids, saw each other near enough every week and were very close. DH and I then emigrated. Just before we emigrated, lots of tears, leaving parties, get togethers etc. They even came to the airport along with our families to wave us off. In the seven years we were out of the country we kept in touch mainly via email as this was before Facebook. Then we moved back. When we came back, we tried to resume the way things used to be but they were very distant with us. Especially the guy out of the other couple. We tried to make an effort and get the friendship back on track again but they were having none of it. I sat down with her on her own and tried to find out what was going on and she clammed up and refused to talk to me about it.

I spent about a year agonising about it and trying to work out if there was anything we had done. Again asked what was the problem as we can't sort anything out unless you talk to us. Again, silence.
My DS goes to school with their DD. My DS told us that their DD had told him she is not allowed to speak to him!

So then I vowed enough was enough and told myself I am not wasting any more head space and time on them. Ten year friendship down the drain but their loss.

My advice to you would be to accept it and although it's painful, move on and get on with your life.

Bellebill · 31/05/2018 13:49

Thanks everyone for all your messages! It’s good to know I’m not alone in this. I know she’s had a lot going on personally but then I’ve been really unwell in hospital and when I reached out to let her know she didn’t even bother responding to that so she clearly hates me. It’s so confusing and hurtful. I know I need to move on and I’ve got friends that are wonderful and been there for me through so much but I’ve been there for this friend too so I just cannot fathom it! I need to stop obsessing otherwise it’s not going to help me in getting better. Thanks for letting me vent and for supportive messages! I’m new here too xx

Loopytiles · 31/05/2018 13:51

Name change fail.

Very sorry this has happened.

Don’t assume that she hates you! There could be a myriad of reasons, and you may never know.

user7469322 · 01/06/2018 22:05

At the moment I am considering ending a friendship because although I love my friend, there are many things which aggrovate me and upset me about her frequently. I feel like she only ever comes to me whenever something's up with her and if I go to her then I'm inconveniencing her, plus a myriad of other things. However, I have looked on so many websites about how people have felt being ghosted/dropped for 'no reason', without explanation and it's making me think triply hard about the way this could potentially swing. I'm very sorry that OP and the other posters have been through this situation. It's a reality check to read how awful it made you all feel; I don't want to inflict that on someone I care about.

MyFavPeopleCallMeMum · 02/06/2018 01:43

I have been in this situation lot of time before and sometimes they have come out alright some times not but if it at taught me one thing it is just to tell them to fuck of and get a grip

Usernamehere · 02/06/2018 14:18

Myfavepeoplecallmemum that was the best post I saw on here yet tbh. Straight to the point. amazinglygrace at the end of the day u can't stay in a friendship that doesn't u don't want to be in. U could just distance urself from her abit without full on ignoring her. Abit of space might be what u need tbh. Hope all is well I simply say I learnt who my true friends are in the end and so will you xx

Thinkingofausername1 · 05/06/2018 22:57

I'm sorry to hear how you have been treated. It maybe she is upset and doesn't know, what to say. She could also be upset if you told her last. I recently had a friend, who told me she was pregnant half way through pregnancy, I thought we were close friends and have come close to blocking her, because I thought wrong.

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