Teenagers sleeping together under 16

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My question is what do you do if they come and say I'm having sex at 13/14/15?
Do u allow this? Can't u say no?
Do you allow them to do it in your house so it's not outside? Should it not be no to both?
What age is ok for a relationship?
Can we say no are we setting them upto have sex by allowing relationship?
Should all teenagers be on birth control?
I'm asking cause I'm undecided what to do am i being to strict that they will ignore me and do it behind my back or do I want my 14 year old saying she's having sex as I'm scared of this I don't want that when did parents lose control why are kids doing sexual things really early I don't know to be happy she told me or disappointed that she's started so early don't want her called names

Please no bashing I just don't want my 14 year old being an adult to soon just because of peer pressure in school

I don't have teens, but I can totally see why you're scared. Do you have the kind of relationship where you can have that conversation? It would be worth trying to open things up a bit if you don't currently. And decide what you're comfortable with - we never had boyfriends/girlfriends staying over until we were at university age and then we shared rooms because there was no spare room. But my in laws preferred us to have separate rooms until we were married.

Yes really close relationship do I we go see about birth control or is that promoting that I'm 0k with it 0r am i being sensible about it it's so confusing as a parent to know what's right and wrong I don't want her to have sex till she ready in a stable relationship I want her to have healthy approach not multiple partners by 15

I don’t have teens yet so I haven’t faced what you are going through. I understand why you’re concerned, I would be too. I think 14 is far too youbg, but a lot of teens are in sexual relationships by then. My worry would be that not only is your daughter too young but the boys will be very immature at that age. They may treat her badly, she might not be respected and she could be hirt very badly. If it were me, I would be doing what I can to protect my daughter, and limiting her opportunities to have sex. I would do my best to educate her that she is too young and that the age of consent is there for a reason. Only you know if that could work- if you think that is totally unrealistic then is there another way you can protect her?

We tried teaching consent, contraception and relationship advice. 2 years and god knows how many “partners” later we are at a loss. In retrospect I would care more about her self worth and any issues you may not know about

They say that kids with the most aspirations & robust self-esteem are the least likely to do self-destructive things (drugs, sex, drop out of school, etc).

If you want to protect them, try hard to make them think that they deserve better than bad decisions.

All you can do is speak to your teens about respect and how important it is not to rush and be comfortable and safe. My mum and dad never spoke to me about sex but they brought me up very well and to respect myself and others. I still did it at 14 because all my friends were doing it and I felt pressure. Regretted it instantly and didn't do it again until I was in a proper relationship (now married and been together 8 years) things will happen whether you like it or not so make sure they are safe and in control. Your approach seems spot on x