help with neighbors plz!

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so we have lived in our house for around 4 years we are up stairs and our neighbors are down stairs we have got on well but they have always been qwiet selfish and iv always put it down to there just the type of people that are like that slowly put surely they have started to do more and more to annoy me and im close to the point where we are going to have to exchange words! ill fill u in on a few stories and i would like your advice on weather you’s lovely people think im over reacting or if im right! so we share the same acess to the back garden but it has always been they had the left hand side and we took the right i would let it go when the would cook barbecues on our side and leave it there for days on end when i had a small child who ran about then early last year they decided to take my brown bin which is garden rubbish and fill it without asking they tried to put this bin out to be emptied but it was rejected as they had filled it with stuff they shouldnt have they then made no effort to empty this bin and theres and is still there full to this day i had to phone the council and claim to lose mine so i could get one to do my gardening i now keep this down at my shed hoping they would take the hint and not use this one, when its bin day we have always just taken out each others bin who ever got round to takeing them out until about 3 weeks ago when they only took theres out and left sitting there so i started leaving there bin as well i dont mean to be petty but i couldn’t help it, now iv just had my husband call me as im on the nightshift he finished at 3 in the morning when its still dark and after reversing into our driveway when he got out he noticed he was cms away from reversing into a chiminea just sitting in the middle of the driveway way i have finally had enough of there selfish ways who just leaves something like that firstly on property that isn’t your and the fact that its sitting in a drive way my husband was very annoyed as would i have been and has moved it to the steep im front of there door to make a point that we are annoyed iv always had the feeling that these people think there better than us because they own there house and we rent but in my opinion it just shows u money cant by manner am i over reacting or am i right to be made about all these thing?

Did you even stop to breathe whilst typing that?!

You can’t go around hinting and “always assuming they’ll take the left and you’ll take the right”

It’s a shared garden you can both do as you like

sillymoomin thanks very much for your very un helpfully advice i thought this was meant to be a site where ypu help each other. ill have you know we didnt assum when we moved in they informed us this is what they done with the previous person and would like to continue this way. this is my first time posting and i could do without people who clearly have an attitude problem and just reply to people who are looking for help with unhelpful comments.

Are they approachable? If not or you just don't feel comfortable having a polite word, I would (hand) write them a (brief!), friendly letter just expressing a few of your concerns and finish by saying something like 'sorry for the rant, perhaps we could have a chat about it?' And a smiley face. You don't want to come across as passive aggressive, leaving notes so just be very friendly- they may not even realise they are doing it! Be brave!

thanks zaplolly iv just never been keen on confrontation so just hoped these things would stop writing a letter is a good idea. thanks again and ill take this on bored 😊

Just talk to them and see if that helps

Without a great deal of punctuation or paragraphs I’m finding it difficult to read.

You can't tell them not to use a shared space. Sides of garden may have been agreed verbally but they can use any part of the garden if it's a shared area

Do both flats have separate bins? I know some flats share.
I would ring the council advise there is a bin filled with incorrect waste and it appears to have been dumped and ask them to collect both bin and rubbish

Is the drive way yours ? Or is it shared?

I would speak with neighbour
But I would make it friendly and informal. There will always be things that annoy us about our neighbours

I think you have left it too late about the bin and I out should try and get it to the tip yourself (I would have asked them to do that when it happened not just asked for a new bin).

Leaving the chimnea there was silly and dangerous so either say something or leave a note. Explain how DH come home in the dark and nearly crashed into it so could they please not leave things on your property?

You could text them that it seems somebody tried to steal their chiminea but must have heard somebody coming as it was abandoned in the driveway...and your husband almost ran over it.
Regarding the BBQ on your side, I would just move it to theirs and hope that was hint enough.

That was a difficult read.

I have awful selfish neighbours (police were called at 2am this morning as she's clearly pissed someone off and they attacked her and my house with hammers in the dead of night!)

In comparison, yours don't seem too bad.
Talk to them before things escalate but breathe and talk calmly if you want it resolved. You come across a bit ranty!

If this is ure major issues there nothing compared to others think is it worth a war where they start putting loud music on at nyt u will probably make things worse take ure own bin out and u let them have BBQ in ure garden and didn't tell them to tidy mess same with bin u need to speak up at the time it's done not go with a list next time they touch ure stuff go out n tell them to put it back they probably think your easy to take the piss out ofg