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Family issues after auntys death

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Cocopop39 · 25/05/2018 17:51

My aunty moved to Spain 2 years ago , she found out in March she had cancer but wouldn’t come back for treatment so she decided to have it there. She had 2 lots of chemo and had a massive heart attack in the hospital car park. She died for 20 mins and then was very ill in a coma. My mum who is her sister wanted to go Spain soon after it happened with her other 2 sisters. They had planned to go but my aunty has to collect passport etc from London then drop her daughters kids at there grandparents which is a 3 hour drive away. Anyway my cousin and aunty left my mum waiting with bags packed for two days. Then told her they can’t take her as no room in the car. My mum was furious and they know my mum won’t travel alone with her depression and anxiety etc. Anyway they went to Spain. Before they went we was getting daily updates acually twice a day from my aunties friend in Spain, as soon as my aunty and cousin got there we heard nothing. They told my auntys friend not to answer our calls but they also wasn’t answering our calls. They turned really funny against us all, made us feel like that wasn’t even our aunty. We couldn’t believe how they were acting it was unbelievable! Anyway the day they were due to come home my aunty died. Still nobody contacted us only my cousin here who is a sister of my cousin who went over. We had no details nothing. That was the last we heard. They stayed in Spain for a few more days after that untill the funeral which my aunty had already sorted out with her insurance when she first moved to Spain. They didn’t call us to say how it went or anything. I text my cousin she didn’t reply for two days then went mad throwing abuse at us all. Anyway everyone fell out and they came back with my auntys ashes. We only know about the ashes comming back with them as a email was sent from my auntys friend in Spain. They stated to arrange for the ashes to be buried here with my gran but then we heard nothing. Anyway it then turned into another argument and everyone blocking each other and a right slagging match . Now they are refusing to tell us when the ashes are being buried and are taking this away from us ...out chance to say goodbye. My mum and other sister are devistated ! We have tried calling the vicor and funeral places but have no joy yet. They are going back to Spain this weekend for the reading of the will and for my cousins 40th turning it into a holiday in my dead aunties apartment. They are clearly after her money but I know she did make a will . The dr said she was given 6-12 months to live when diagnosed but she didn’t tell anyone. She told my mum she made a will and said she will sort out her uk accounts when she comes back after her treatment. But she never got that chance. My mum isn’t interested in her money but it’s not the point I don’t see why they should have it all. My aunty has lots of money here and property over there. Can they go to the uk accounts and take the money? They have the death certificate. Or would it be shared out by the bank between all 3 sisters? Also is there anything we can do legally to to find out about the ashes being buried? Thank you

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SomeKnobend · 25/05/2018 18:01

You don't see why her kids should inherit all her money? Er, ok then. Just leave them all to it. I'd assume you're not getting anything tbh.

StillNoClue · 25/05/2018 18:07

They may have spread her ashes or plan to keep her ashes in their home. Without them telling you, you may not find out. Can't you ask one of the cousins?

Did your aunty not have any children?

The will part, she could have divided it up how she wanted. So she could have said the estate to be sold and money given to 3 sisters and divided equally. She could have given it all to one or none and donated the lot to charity.

Cocopop39 · 25/05/2018 18:19

She hasn’t got any kids!! She has 3 living sisters who all have kids but she never had any children herself

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Cocopop39 · 25/05/2018 18:20

And nobody know what they are getting yet as nobody has seen the will

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Cocopop39 · 25/05/2018 18:23

She only done a will for her Spanish banks and her apartment she was going to do the will for uk accounts when she came back after her treatment so they aren’t in the will but they are the accounts with most the money in. Whatever is in her will is fair enough that’s her wishes but the rest should be devided equally between her sisters? Sorry I didn’t realise I hadn’t stated she had no children 🤭

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Monday55 · 25/05/2018 18:54

Is your aunt's mum or father still alive ? They could contest the will and ensure everything is shared out equally.

Anyone named on the will can contest but next of keen such as grandparents or parents don't have to be named on the will to contest it.

Cocopop39 · 25/05/2018 18:58

No they are both dead. She has 3 sisters and nieces and nephews and not children or parents

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Nb65988 · 31/05/2018 08:34

She will have appointed a executer of the will and this prison is in charge of everything and they get the and they have to be at will reading so I suggest ure mum And other sister are there but if they 2 idiots think there ryt there money hungry to go without her two sisters but ure mum and sister could have flew over the next flight so why didn't they and went to funeral it's all about money it's selfish but check will its a different country so u don't know how safe a will is if they give her money it's dodgy

Cocopop39 · 31/05/2018 10:16

My mum didn’t go as her 2 sisters fell out and her sister wouldn’t go. My mum wouldn’t go alone as she has bad anxiety and depression!!!!

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