Hi, I have just joined and I am in desperate need of some advice. It is a rather long story so I will try to keep it short but detailed enough.
I have an ex who currently lives in the Florida (I’m in the UK). We spilt late 2017 and remained friendly since. We still care for each other but we just wanted different things in life.
Recently I wanted to get back in touch with him as I need his help. I have been a victim of domestic violence and sexual harassment and I believe this person could possibly be a witness. Currently the prospect of the crime going to court is slim to none due to the lack of evidence and I believe that it could be crucial to my case if this person ,let’s call him Andy, was to write a statement.
I tried to call but no answer. I know that due to his career he receives phones frequently. I decided to write him a letter tracked and signed for. I also opened up about my personal life in the letter, my 4 year old daughter went through something very traumatic at school and was subjected to things no child should be. She has since needed therapy to work through her issues.
I wrote these things in my letter because I am close to ‘andy’ and I feel I need him right now. He cared deeply for not only myself but also my little girl. I really would love his support right now as he knows just what to do to make everything a little better.
On receiving a notification that my letter had been delieved I received a barrage of abuse via Facebook. This woman previously unknown to me started saying such depraved things and joking about my daughters ‘molesation’. She then called me over 30 times pretending to be ‘Andy ’ and then sent several FaceTime requests to myself from ‘Andy’s’ old phone again pretending to be him. I finally answered the call and received a 8 minute call of abuse, I’m talking shouting - barely stopping for air and I could hardly make out what she was saying. Although I did defiantly understand what she was saying when she was making vile comments about my daughter’s trauma. Luckily I recorded the phone call.
She stated in the phone call that she signed for the letter and then read it because she was a ‘good woman’?? She hasn’t given it to the recipient (Andy) and he has no knowledge of this letter. I wrote my contact information in the letter for ‘Andy’ to contact me but instead this woman used it for her own sick game. I wrote a return address on the envelope which she could of used to return it, and now I am worried that this woman has my address.
I have since received numerous unsolicited messages from men in the states assuming that I want to hook up with them, they were also kind enough to send me a pic of their manhood. I believe this woman is pretending to be me on some website but giving my true information away. This only happened after I finished speaking to her on Saturday and it has been relentless that I have had to come off Facebook. This leaves me very worried about mine and my daughters safety. This woman knows my home address and has already shown a lack of decency and morals. I am worried that she might commicate someone in the uk pretending to be me and give them my home address.
This woman who I assume is his partner is obviously very insecure within herself and has told me she will do whatever it takes for me not to contact ‘Andy’. I know it is illegal to knowingly open someone’s post without permission, not take proper steps to return to owner or sender, read it and then act upon it and this is exactly what she has done.
She continues to harass me knowing that there is not much I can do. ‘Andy’ works for a prestigious company within the finance industry and has a somewhat of a ‘confidential’ job so I am pretty sure I can’t just call reception and ask to speak to him.
I desperately need to speak to him and I also need to stop this woman. My only problem is that they are in the US and I am in the UK. I’ve spoken to Royal Mail and the Police who can’t help much. Is it worth getting a solicitor involved? I study and work part time so I do not have much spare cash at the end of the month so the thought of a solicitor gives me chills but is that my only option?
Any advice would be massively appreciated. Sorry for the long message!
Thank you :)