MOD deleting Instagram

[chloeistephens]

I just want to say it's disgusting that MOD has felt the need to delete her Instagram, even if temporarily. I bet we all want our children to live in a safe, mindful and positive society yet so many mums and even dads are happy to butt into other people's lives. Why can people allow others to just live their own lives? If you don't like it then don't look at it but don't negativity discuss it. I get everyone's entitled to their own opinion but I want my child to live in a MINDFUL and HAPPY society where they do have to get anxious or worry about being negatively spoken about or judged. Us mums and dads should be supporting each other and if we have something nasty to say then just keep it to yourself as negativity hurts and I wouldn't want my child to be going through any of this.

But she's OK with showing her children to the world it doesn't make it morally wrong your just a private person!! There's no need to be so bitter and negative towards her or other instamums why can't everyone just do themselves and be positive towards each other your all the ones with the issue and how can you think she's morally wrong yet think saying the things you say and being sooo negative etc is morally right it's so hypocritical I don't get it

until MOD herself confirms why she's come off instagram it's all just speculation and gossip

@chloeistephens this is more than sharing pictures of children, and it's more than MOD.

It’s a safeguarding issue. Their limited company is registered to their home address. Any member of the public is allowed to look up the details of a company through Companies House. They make their children and their address public. Not smart.

Also it’s an ethical issue. There are very, very strict guidelines around using children in TV and print advertising, with huge financial penalties attached if they aren’t followed. Advertising on instagram is a grey area at the moment as the law hasn’t been written yet in a way which properly covers it. But rather than exploit that as a loophole and use their children in Instagram adverts to make as much cash as possible, perhaps they should follow the spirit rather than the letter of the current law around using children in advertising.

Finally, if you want to talk about hypocrisy, she attempted to start a bandwagon rolling which pinpointed mumsnet as a space full of ‘bullies’, ‘trolls’ and ‘haters’, and called for everyone to #bekind. Yet at the same time, she let vile, bullying, anti Semitic and disablist comments run riot on her own feed. Not to mention the nasty DMs she herself sent to people who dared to simply point out this double standard.

Debating advertising and safeguarding children and consent is not being “negative”.
This message of saying nothing unless it’s positive and affirming is worrying.

This message of saying nothing unless it’s positive and affirming is worrying

Hear hear.

I honestly don't believe her intentions were to use her children to cash in on money at all. She started blogging way before it became a thing. She's been offered products and services for free and has accepted this because they are good opportunities and personally I wouldn't turn them down if offered them particularly if beneficial to my children... of course registering her house is a very silly error but doesn't make her morally wrong. People are thinking way to into what her intentions are... she also couldn't physically monitor all her comments on her posts that shouldn't be her job to delete as people simply shouldn't use them and well mumsnet hasn't been nice to her at all and so she probably does have a bad opinion of its users as she's been subject to a lot of abuse and gossip.

Perhaps she may have sent some messages in response to negative comments but she's been hounded she's only human she probs just snapped I know I'd probably snap back out of frustration and being upset over things being said that weren't true or nice.

chloe - do you like MOD? Are you trying to help her? If so, this thread really isn't

I would also suggest that before you post, you personally have a look at the NMC (MOD's regulatory body) and the DM's that MOD sent and the comments on MOD's page and then consider if they are in breach of those. Try looking at some factual, primary sources ans come to your own independant conclusions rather than believing everything you read on instagram where critical analysis is essentially banned and it is populated by other hawkers influencers who have a vested interest in shutting down any discussion about their umethical behaviours. This is done by telling people to #bekind. That actually means "shut up"

Whilst MOD's employer has said it has not received any complaint, that is not the same as saying that the NMC have not nor does it not mean that MOD's employer is not investigating her conduct off their own back

NMC regulations

The #bekind campaign isn't to shut people up its to be kind it's as simple as that?! I became a young mum like MOD and my partner like FOD recently and seeing her success and his too despite being young parents has been inspiring and seeing honest comments on having a body post baby etc is rather inspiring and uplifting and has helped me when times have felt tough and overwhelming. Why can't people just leave her to do her thing without having to comment on it I don't get it ?

Because speaking up on things that appear morally wrong is something we should all feel free to do chloe

telling people to #bekind is telling them to be quiet. It is telling them not to speak unless they are doing so in an entirely uncritical and unquestioning way

Applying that logic, you should stop posting now if you disagreeing with me hurts my feelings (as I am not emotionally resilient enough to deal with that) on thw basis that you are not "being kind" (which is an entirely subjective test anyway and not what freedom of speech is based upon). Further applying that logic, there would be no restaurant review or film reviews published unless they were unquestioningly gushing (ie useless) and more seriously, we would live in a society where scientific and medical research would be very curtailed as no one could ever disagree with anyone else unless it hurt a researcher's feelings

It's nonsensical. Look up some of the threads on here and read about what has actually happened. The "kindness" that is demanded on instagram only goes one way in any event and the whole premise is entirely hypocritical

This is how I sum it up.

Also, let's not forget there's a very important power dynamic at play here. MOD has, by definition of being an 'influencer', power over her followers. She is not just some innocent random on instagram who's been unfairly singled out. She's someone trading off her followers and, as such, is quite rightly being held to account by them.

I think it’s so sad and such a waste of time bringing down other women. We all just trying to get through the day with the kids still alive and kicking and preferable a gin in hand come bedtime. Women do better when we support eachother. This is nothing but jealousy and boredom! I get boredom( why u think I am on this thread) but the comments are beyond me. They are people just trying to make a living.....and aren’t we all?

That was referring to the insta mums bitch fest actually... think comments turned off! My bad!

But now I have sifted through it totally applies here too. I agree with Chloe

It's just disgraceful women tearing down each other women when we should be supporting each other especially in a time like 2018 it feels like jealously to me

Well, thanks for your invaluable input...

FFS, this is why I avoid InstaBloggers like the plague. Swallowing the insipid, vacuous crap they post is one thing, but fighting their (lost) battles for them is another.

I'm not going to blindly support someone that's doing the wrong thing just because she's a woman. Do fuck off.

Wow and who said these mumsnet trolls were touchy?!

This is a joke! So Chloe we should all support over women completely? No matter if their behiavoour is morally questionable? No matter if they are DMing people directly in a very unprofessional and aggressive manner? Even if they have previously lied to us about whether particular posts were advertisements or not?

Why is MOD allowed to criticise Kim Kardashian but we are not allowed to question anything MOD does? In the past MOD has either deleted any post questioning her or she has labelled people trolls or haters

Anyway this has all been done to death. Think you have a lot of catching up to do on the old threads. There’s not much more to say on this