Next door asking for charity money HELP

[Meowmeowwoofxo]

Hi,

We live next door to a couple who repeatedly ask for charity money for their church charity events and other things. Recently we have had some awkwardness as we have put a fence up they didn’t want (legally etc etc) and it’s make for some bad air. Now they’ve come and knocked on our door asking for charity money and I just took the leaflet as it was the first time we’ve spoken since the fence situation.

I don’t know what to do - we want to repair the bad air between us but I don’t want to give to a charity we don’t have anything to do with (we rescue animals and have just done a 106km walk for charity). I think they’re aware we want to get on with them so are pushing asking for money.

Shall I give them some money, explain we don’t want to give money to a church charity or something else?

Thanks!

Say thanks for asking but you've got your own charities that you donate to?

You know that they'll definitely keep asking if you give them something now!

No, don't give them money!

It's not good will if you have to buy it. "We've already chosen the charities we support and won't be donating to any others, got to go and make dinner now, bye".

Thanks both for your replies. I'm so glad people agree with the fact we shouldn't feel like we shout give them money.

Do you think go round and talk to them or mention it when we next see them? I'm really not good with any sort of confrontation at all x

No, I wouldn't give them anything, but I'd say, "Oh I was just going to ask you to support MY charity. Shall I put you down for £10?" They will soon be off.

No dont make a thing of it, just say next time they come around when they that you’ve chosen your charities this year and wish them luck!!

@HollowTalk amazing haha!

@Atalune okay I'll just leave it and see what happens. Thanks so much for your advice x

@ApocalypseNowt @AnneLovesGilbert sorry didn't tag u in reply

Are you completely convinced the money is going to the charity?

Tell them you can't afford it after paying so much for your new fence

@HollowTalk Oh yes I would be pretty sure. They're really heavily involved in the church and it would be pretty ironic of them to steal it

One of the houses in my street is a nunnery house ( 2 retired non habit wearing nuns live there) it's owned by the church. I assume they never really retire and still have connections / obligations. I'm always getting leaflets, requests to fill shoe boxes etc. I oblige perhaps once a year but like you have my own personal charity preferences.

@TyrionsNextWife hahahahaha it's kind of true. This is the first house we've bought so we don't want to fall out with them though!

@kissthealderman they tried at Christmas for us to donate to their actual church too. We ignored that one which is why I think they actually turned up at the door asking for the money this time.

@Namethecat ah that's pretty intense! I don't mind doing a shoebox at Christmas etc but this is the 3rd time in a year they've asked for money directly.

Why don't you say "oh we were going to ask you to support our charity aswell. Tell you what you throw into the church fund for us and we'll donate into our charity for you"

@Highlights12 that's a good idea. I think if I'm polite but work with them it should work. It's just so awkward!

You need to put a permanent stop to this. No need for drama, but next time they ask, say ‘We will never donate, we have our own charities, please don’t ask again.’ They’d have to be idiots to persist after that

I think you should use Hollows idea, but since I'm a terrible person, I'd ask them to donate to:

www.atheismuk.com/about/

@Weezol you made me laugh!!!!!