Hi peeps,
First thread and hope it is ok!
So it's long and apologize... moved in November, heart breaking move as loved my home but 1) Needed a bigger house as children were fighting for space as they were sharing and 2) I think if I hadn't moved, the situation with awful neighbours may have got alot worse and I was so upset seeing them on a daily basis and didn't think it was good as my anxiety and my mood swings over them for my poor family wasn't great.
So when we moved after me backing and fourthing all month whether to do it or not (it is 2 miles away from kids school), we did and the day moved went completely tits up! Our pet died that day, he was so sick and I had spent 3 days for 5 hours roughly a night cuddling him as knew he was going to go and he died that day :( also the house ended up having 6 weeks of intense repairs as some twat passed it as fine to live in, which I ended up losing my shit over as it was far too much, just couldnt get settled in at all and really resented moving into a place that was really not fit for purpose and had 23 repairs!
Anyways I immediately regretted moving and after spending 2k on 2 x rents, decor, carpets and flooring, plus general moving costs, Christmas, I felt rather depressed. It really wasn't what I was hoping for, and seemed more stress than was needed and felt like why the fuck did we!? It hasnt been worth it.
Fast forward 6 months on, I am half settled, I dont know if I am utterly done in with it all and have come to accept the place as it is (new bathrooms are needed as they are a mess, one stripped out as flooded badly). I have been trying to get back on my feet financially, even though HMRC have just told me they have over paid me ffs!
I had moved the children to the local school here, to make life slightly easier, although whipped them back out within a month, as the staff didnt seem to know their arses from elbows and there was alot of class disruption, with some children already there.
To be quite honest the only 2 good things about moving is we are not as cramped and no arsehole neighbours - nothing else though and I was really missing where we lived as apart from the shit morons we lived next to and less space, my kids got out more, could walk to school, nicer area.
Now here is finally where the "What would you do" comes in. I have been offered a house swap back to where I was, same street although it is a big street. Smaller house, but nice house... back to being close to school (driving them everyday at the mo between my shifts or paying a fortune on busses/trains and it is killing me).
Now I could move back and life might well be alot easier getting kids to school and letting them back out and gaining their independence - another thing is I dont fully trust this area we moved to. It is a smaller house and potential to see the morons again :/ big moving costs AGAIN.
If I don't move: I dont need to fork out major moving costs and carpet costs etc... still have space, peace of mind neighbour wise but school is a ballache to do everyday. :( the kids like the school, so unsettling them again isnt an option.
I am so exhausted and fed up really... I just want to settle down! I was reading a thread on here before I started this from 2008 about how far people travel to school... some people dont mind and people in my work do it.... I just don't know.
Advice? Take a massive medal if you even read this! xx