Snapchat

[Gillybubble]

Please can I get some advice?
My 14 year old uses Snapchat, we live out in the sticks and it’s her main source of communication. We have had some level headed serious conversations about its use. Dis and don’ts Be careful don’t send anything you wouldn’t want grandma to see, anything you send can be screenshot and used etc etc.
There’s been a lot of trust and I haven’t checked her messages until today. There’s a good reason as another of her friends has been groomed by a 15 year old boy resulting in a nightmare time.
In scanning her messages I have found a nude shot sent to her from a boy. Her messages state she is now talking to him.
How do I address this with her without Han explosion of “why have you been looking at my messages!!??”
I am trying to be realistic, she has a device, she is going to use Snapchat and I want it to be in a safe way. How shall I go about speaking to her do you think?
Thanks for your helpful advice in advance
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Tricky one, I get that you want to protect but don't want to pry.
At 14 a child should not be seeing nude pictures.
Who pays for the phone/device/online costs?
If you are then you have full rights to state the rules.
Presumably she is aware of the friend' scenario, time to have a good long talk, show examples if you have to and lay down the rules.
I personally would have a security app installed into any device before I passed it to my children. You are a parent/guardian and are responsible for them, you are not a friend and should not be trying to be one, safety first every time.

Ask to check to make sure she's using it properly she can't stop them being sent to her just keep an eye out for her doing that's the battle u want to pick not this one x

There are some really good films about children being groomed online and then horrible things happening afterwards. Good in the sense they show exactly what could happen. Maybe try to show her one and then start a discussion?