Dp and I have been together for nearly 4 years now. Our relationship obviously isn't perfect but it's pretty good.
He has 3 dc from a previous relationship who stay with him full time . They're brilliant kids and I get on great with them.
When I first got together with dp I didn't want children of my own. However, over the past few years I've been thinking about more and more and I've known now for a while that I definitely do.
Dp is open to having more but we'll have to wait years before we can afford another one on top of his three and even then we'd have to scrimp and save and we'll only be able to afford one, maybe two if we have a large gap.
This is all the the complete opposite how I want to have children.
I feel like I have to leave him to at least give myself the opportunity to try and have the family I want.
I thought I felt pretty sure I spoke to s close friend about it and she said I would be silly and selfish to break up an otherwise great relationship because of this and now I don't know wether she's right and I'll regret it if I break up with him or if I'll regret it more staying in a relationship where at the moment thinking about our future just makes me upset.