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1st Birthday

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TeaFairy86 · 14/05/2018 10:06

Hi everyone.

I am so angry and frustrated about something and i am really at my wits end!
My DS has his 1st birthday coming up in July so myself and my partner have already been talking about what we might do for it.
I have my mother and my brother who would be attending and their not the issue. It's the inlaws.

My partner's parents divorced years ago and there has been bad blood between them since. My mother in law lives near by and my partner has only been back in contact with her since we knew i was expecting. She has an alcohol problem and he fell out with her whilst he was a teenager but he decided to put that aside for the sake of our DS and so she could get to know her grandson.
My partner's father has remarried and and he lives with his new wife and her two grown up sons.

Anyway, my step mother inlaw and father have made it clear that they will not be attending our DS 1st birthday if my partner's mother will be there. They expect us to leave her out just to suit them!
I am so angry that for just a few hours they can't put their differences aside, for the sake of their beloved grandson that they claim to love so much and boast about all the time to anyone that will listen.

This has unfortunately been left to me as for some reason my partner will never have the back bone to say anything to his dad . I want all grandparents to attend but i know they won't if they don't get their own way. I feel like saying to them if they can't think of their grandson for just one day and expect us to not invite the other grandmother to any event that involves our DS then to not ever bother again!
Please help!

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gingerbreadbiscuits · 14/05/2018 10:09

Invite them all and then if they chose not to attend then that is their decision. I don’t think it is ever a good idea to deal with an ultimatum.

Shmithecat · 14/05/2018 10:12

What ginger said. Invite them all. Whether they attend will be entirely their choice. And tell your dh to fund his balls

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TeaFairy86 · 14/05/2018 10:14

I just feel bad for my DS. I know he doesn't understand i just wish they would be less selfish about it.

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alwaysthepessimist · 14/05/2018 10:15

Tell DH to manup and deal with it - what a wuss.

Other than that you invite everyone, if they show they show, if they don't then their loss, as long as you get to spend the day with DS then let it be. He won't remember anyway, or care that it is his birthday - it is only when he gets older he will notice but maybe by then they will have all grown up and stop being spoilt brats!

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