A member of dh's family who we aren't particularly close too invited us to their evening reception at their wedding on Tuesday night. The wedding is today. Happening right now.
Dh got a call from one of his brother's - not the groom, the groom is dh's other brother - saying 'yeah the weddings Friday, come if you want'.
No formal invitation. No actual contact from the bride or groom. No idea what time we were ment to be there for, what to wear etc.
And the 'come if you want' really pissed us off.
We decided we weren't going. I felt uncomfortable turning up at a wedding I hadn't properly been invited too. Dh felt the same. We had no form of childcare for dc's. So we weren't going.
Until this morning when dh felt he should go. He said that he would just go show his face for an hour and come home. The venue isn't particularly close to us. 40 min drive. I've stayed home with the dc's.
But literally about 10 mins after he set off I thought 'shit he's gone without a present. And a card'
He's literally just turned up with nothing. Part of me thinks that's fine. I mean they've given us 3 days notice really. But then I thought, isn't it a bit rude to just turn up with nothing?
I expect he will be home soon. He has work early in the morning too.
Would you of even gone given an invite like this?
Don't want to go into the whole background as it's very personal to dh and his had a very tough up bringing. These are dh's step brothers. They aren't really close at all. See each other a couple of times a year at the most. He's close to his siblings on the other side of the family, but this side, they just aren't close.