I am absolutely livid!

[bodecea]

I have just received a phone call from the Multi-Agency Safeguarding Hub.

Apparently they have received an anonymous phone call from someone saying they are worried about my children as they haven't seen them for a while.

I live in a close with gated gardens and high hedges. I don't understand how they are expecting to see my children. They are 27 months and 5 months. Only one has the capability of running around and she does in the garden at the back when it's not overly sunny. Sometimes we go out to Funtime or for a picnic in the park. I truly don't get where this is coming from. It was also mentioned that I was a single mother! I don't see what that has to do with anything. I am more offended than anything else and whilst nursing a teething baby, it's the last thing I need on my plate.

I have asked to speak to the manager and apparently will receive a phone call on Monday. I am looking for advice on how to get to the bottom of this as I'd actually initially thought someone was playing a prank. I'd also like to nip this in the bud, in case this is as a result of my unfriendly and nosy neighbours just being troublesome.

Weird and annoying. Can't give you advice on how to get to the bottom of it - it was an anonymous call, so even they don't know who it was. They might want to come round - honestly quickest way to get rid of them (especially if you think the caller was malicious /likely to repeat) is just to let them in and see that everything is fine.

I've worked in that type of area and malicious/misguided calls were pretty common.

I have invited them to come and take a look as I'd like them to see for themselves. I spoke to my neighbour opposite with kids and she was appalled and said if I needed some sort of back up she would be more than happy to also speak to them. I actually wondered if I had rights to see what exactly was taken down on the phone call. I know they can't tell me because it was anonymous. If they were truly concerned they could have popped round to say hello or ask if I needed any help... which I don't. Not from them anyway.

Sounds like someone watched the recent documentary about the 13 abused dc and their mind has gone into overdrive!!

Do you have a health visitor?

It certainly could be malicious, in which case that awful. Can totally understand why you'd feel unsettled by it.

But equally, whoever it was could have rung your bell and you wouldn't know if it happened while you were out. The single mum comment could be from the point of view that you were only adult and if you'd have an accident in the house nobody would know. In which case, you'd definitely want someone to check on the kids.

I have a Ring doorbell. So a camera records everyone that moves in front of my door. Seriously doubt they came round. I speak to delivery men remotely. My parents also visit often even though they don't live in the country. I do have people I am in touch with and who check on me. I am a Solo Mum by choice, I did think all this through. I definitely feel someone is being mischievous.

No Spartacus I don't have a Health Visitor.

Zzzzz - that's just ridiculous that they expect you to be at home without prearranging a visit.

My neighbours are pretty old except for one with kids, but honestly I never see any of them. I could equally call because I was worried for their safety. But we don't see each other and I think nothing of it except that everyone is busy enjoying heir lives. On bank holiday we were in London meeting friends for a picnic. The weekend before we spent the weekend in London. The week before that we went to London Zoo. That's not counting what we do locally here in Surrey. There is no way it can be presumed we are MIA. I am also well over 35 . So more than capable methinks

Honestly, this is the appropriate look 😳🙄😂🤣

Some people are just nosy/ridiculous/spiteful idiots.

Do you think you know which neighbour it was?

It’s worth asking more about the phonecall, it might reveal something.

Ask the manager who you should call at 2am when your baby won’t settle, just so they can be sure you’re all still there 🙄😂

😂😂😂 You know Annie, I was very tempted when the lady asked if I needed support to rant "Well now you mention it, I could use support with the ironing and sorting out the garage now you ask".

I am going to try and get to the bottom of it. Will try to find out what information I'm entitled to. Perhaps reading the manuscript of the phonecall might hold clues.

Zzzz they would have had a field day after I had my first baby. We were constantly travelling as we were having an extension done on the house. I think my neighbours (if it is them) are just being nosy. They aren't quite able to suss out my circumstances and I don't feel I owe anyone an explanation. Lastly I won't be drawn into their control politics about which planning permission to oppose in the close. I'm surprised they even know I've had a baby as besides my opposite neighbour none of them have said anything. Actually just remembered the one on my left did mention once after my first was about 9 months that he never hears her. Could be him! Hmmm.

On the upside I called my neighbour (that lives opposite (the only one with young kids in the close) to vent about it and she came round with a baked cake and we had tea. She was appalled and we have our suspicions. But I'll wait to find out more.