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The nice girl

31 replies

Olilou01 · 03/05/2018 21:07

Nice means . Nice. Not datable. Not attractive. Dont mean anything.
But what if he was asked if he is interested dnt you fancy her? an that, that person would tell her to help her move on, an he replies no!! Its not that, i've seen her around think shes nice.

What then?.

Dont be negative. Just reply what you would think it meant.

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WhyNotDuckie · 03/05/2018 21:11

Pardon?

picklemepopcorn · 03/05/2018 21:12

I'm not really sure what you mean. Has someone denied he doesn't fancy you, and says you are 'nice'?

That would mean he vaguely fancies you, and thinks you are a nice person. I think.

MrsJamin · 03/05/2018 21:12

No idea what you're asking.

TheSpottedZebra · 03/05/2018 21:13

Have you had a nice drink?

Awrite · 03/05/2018 21:14

I'm sorry, I've read your op a couple of times and can't work out what you're asking.

acornsandnuts · 03/05/2018 21:14

Say what now?

duckingfisaster · 03/05/2018 21:15

Literally makes zero sense, maybe try again?

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Olilou01 · 03/05/2018 21:19

I meant. Someone asked him do you like her dnt u fancy her. So i can tell ger to mive on. He replies. Not that at all. Ive seen her around shes nice!.
What then?. Whats that mean?.

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RespoDad · 03/05/2018 21:22

It means you shouldn’t open that next bottle of Pinot Grig.

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Olilou01 · 03/05/2018 21:24

Really wish i had 1 right now.

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userofthiswebsite · 03/05/2018 21:28

Sounds like he does like you.

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Olilou01 · 03/05/2018 21:29

Is i thonk shes nice, shes not my type, nice way saying not interested etc. They said they would tell me, so i could move on. But he said no!, i seen her around. Think shes nice.

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Olilou01 · 03/05/2018 21:38

Wouldnt a guy of used this platfprm of her maye to get message not interested to girl. An not say no when asked is it you dnt like her then are you not interested. Surely uts prime timing to say tell her im flattered an all but no.. instead he chose seen her around, think shes nice an said no to the shall i tell her your not interested part.
Do guys beat around the bush if they arent interested. If it were me i wouldnt of mentioned i thought he was nice. As it could be misconstrude an lead to all sorts of questoons. Like now x

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Teatogo · 03/05/2018 21:43

He's not dead keen at this exact moment in time but he's not disinterested either.

As in if things naturally took a turn in a more than friends direction he would probably be quite happy with that but he's unlikely to go out of his way to make anything happen.

I don't think that's a bad thing neccessarily

itswinetime · 03/05/2018 21:44

If I'm with you. Some one asked a guy you like if he fancies you so they could let you know if he doesn't And you could move on? He reptile that he had seen you about and you were a nice girl now your not sure what that means and where you stand???

It means he thinks your nice he wouldn't want to rule out dating you but he isn't convinced that he dose want to either. My suggestion would be cut out the middle guy and talk to him see if you have a spark any common ground. No one likes the high school thing of ooh my mate fancies you what do you think so your not going to figure out what he thinks that way!

DesperateAndDistressed · 03/05/2018 21:47

Surely it means "I like you (you,'re a good person, etc) but not romantically"?

NotTakenUsername · 03/05/2018 21:52

He’s keeping his options open but doesn’t like you lots. If nothing better comes along you might become more attractive to him.

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Olilou01 · 03/05/2018 23:50

All of the above sound abt right. I think hes strange at times he comes ago goes with flirting. Same break times. Then nithing for days . Then all in again. Like he is confused. Nkt sern him since last week when she asked. An today he back on my break. He knws when i go outside for break. Never says more than hi. Or hi how u doing. Once or twice ive gotten a wink . Mainly smiles. Compliment here n there. I dnt wanna b an option. I eanna b the one for a change. Y do i attract the option guys.

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Littlechocola · 03/05/2018 23:52

Ask him out for a drink.

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Olilou01 · 03/05/2018 23:55

Like he will do the above an if i go to reply he dnt listen to it or he smiles to himself. Y play someone. Y is fun. Either ur in or ur out. Truthfully. If its only a ... he wants y not come on to me if he knws i like him. I knw i sound crazy but its stuff id love to knw. To stop my mind wondering the ifs.

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Olilou01 · 03/05/2018 23:57

If i got more of a convo i would . One time i made an effort he said wgats ur plan 4 weekend . I said chill out quiet one. Then he says so just a quiet one then ten mins later. Was this him asking. Or did i miss read it.

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NotTakenUsername · 04/05/2018 06:23

If he is a colleague I’d be extra wary of him. Flirting at work could be a good way to ease the monotony. Is it an interesting job? I once worked in a supermarket and it was unbelievably dull - however the canteen was so silly and fun it was a good compensation. Lots of flirting there too.

AgathaRaisonDetra · 04/05/2018 06:52

I wish you would proof read OP, because I don’t understand a word you’re typing.

NotTakenUsername · 04/05/2018 06:58

Then why comment at all AgathaRaisonDetra?

Lots of younger people type this way now. You can build a bridge to either try to understand (not difficult) or to get over yourself (potentially more tricky).

NotTakenUsername · 04/05/2018 07:02

For you, Agatha: Wink

If I got more of a conversation I would ask him out for a drink.

One time I made an effort:
he said, “what are your plans for the weekend?”
So I said, “I’m just planning to chill out and have a quiet one.”

About ten minutes later he replied, “so just a quiet one then...”

Was this him asking? Or did i misread it?