Just found out something!

[bathbomb]

I have just turned 50 and have just found out that my husband of thirty years has downloaded pictures of women he knows and has known in the past onto his phone. This includes our next door neighbour! He says he doesn’t know why he has done it but insists that there have been no meetings or affairs. I am bloody fuming! We have three children - I don’t know what to do

Tell him you're taking him to the doctors as you suspect early onset Alzeheimers...as he 'doesn't know why' he did it..

Bollocks 'doesn't he know'. He knows very well why. And he doesn't want to tell you. Why do you think that might be, OP?

I didn’t realise anyone had answered! We have been through weeks of hell. He is on medication and seeing a therapist. I believe nothing has happened - am I being stupid? I on the other hand have not told a soul (outside of MN) So when I see the neighbour for example I cry inside

What kind of pics? Nude/sexy?

Sounds really rough.

Has there ever been any indication that he was up to no good, OP? And why is he on medication - not just because of a few pictures on his phone, surely?

It's a bit weird to 'collect' photos of women but maybe just a sign of a kind of mid-life crisis about being married for a long time and thinking there are a lot of women out there and maybe he didn't have many girlfriends before he got married.

I think somewhere maybe edited you said they were eg FB photos not sexy?

He knows how much he has hurt me and I feel he is truly sorry. Yes there’s a way back - I’m not going to throw away our years together because he’s been an absolute arsehole. In my heart of hearts I know he hasn’t met up with these women or even messaged them. With regards to meds, he has been on antidepressants for years and the dose has been doubled.