Is he taunting me?

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I posted previously under another name about a guy at work harassing me. I put in a formal complaint and all was dealt with amazingly!

The outcome was he had a formal warning. No pay review for the next year. Has to attend a harressment course and if he puts one foot out of line then he is gone. It then came to light that before me someone else had complained about him saying he made them uncomfortable. Apparently it wasn't formally logged like mine though. Was a comfort to know that it wasn't just me though. Anyway he has been told not to contact me or any of my family in or out of work. The only reason he has to come into my room at work is to get a drink from the machine. He has been told to get the drink then leave.

Over the past 2 weeks since this claim has been going on he had not entered my room once. Now this week he has come into the room to get just himself a drink and seems so chirpy. He then stood in front of my desks chatting to someone for a while. WWYD? would you say something to HR? Because she said if he doesn't just get a drink and leave or makes you uncomfortable to tell her. I almost feel like he's taunting me like Ha I haven't lost my job!
Or should I leave it and keep an eye out for any other serious behaviour?

He has been told to get the drink then leave. He didn't do what he was told to. He has broken the terms. Yes you should report it.

I would report, yes. Sounds as though he trying to make some sort of point (I've not been fired / I can do what I want / you can't keep me away from you). Report report report. What an entitled piece of shit he is.

Record the times he enters and leaves. And then report each time.

The day this happened I met my Dsis for lunch. I told her about it and she said "you can't expect him to not to talk anyone". So felt i was making a big deal of nothing. But then he doesn't work in my room so he could easy get a drink then go.

Just don't know what to do. I'm in two minds if to report it or wait until another incident

Report it. HR can then decide if it's innocent or not but if you don't report it then he knows he can push it that far and may try to push it further next time.

Hmm 2 things to think of first. 1 did he start the conversation that kept it by your desk and 2 do other people know about this stipulation. If so then yes report

Yes, report it. It’s up to HR what happens then.

You are over reacting, and coming across really badly.

I can't remember if he started the conversation and no, no one knows about what's happened. It's just me, him, my manager and HR that knows.

Thanks telly!

I refer to your op: Because she said if he doesn't just get a drink and leave [...] tell her.

Why are you still doubting yourself?

Telly WTF?! The OP certainly is not overreacting! OP ignore that comment. Report it, it made you feel uncomfortable. And good on you for dealing with it in the first place. Zero tolerance for this sort of shit.

I don't know red may be because if I tell HR he will prob lose his job and I think it might make the situation worse

So the person he chatted with would corroborate the fact that he stood there...

As far as your sister is concerned - yes, he can talk to other people, just not in your office. Report to HR. They might just have a quiet word with him about pushing his luck.

He knows the terms of his warning.

Report, and who gives a fuck if he loses his job, he certainly doesn’t seem to care to hold on to it if the only thing he needs to do is not fucking harass you. And he is continuing.

Don’t give him a second thought, report it. Report him every single time.

Yea I think they would say he stood there and chatted. It's open plan so every one can see each other.

The reason why in worried about him losing his job is as ridiculous as it sounds I think he would make my life difficult. He knows where I live too and I live on my own with my DS so just a bit worrying really.

He's pushing you to see what he can get away with. He knows he's not supposed to do what he did.

If he loses his job and still harrasses you you can get a restraining order etc, no?

Yea I guess that's true joan

Difficult one. I understand your reasons for not wanting him to lose his job and therefore bear a grudge.... however, unfortunately this is still giving him power over you.

Can you record the time spent chatting in front of your desk - if he does it again, report both times to HR?

I didn't see your original thread but sounds like your work have taken it seriously.

Why does he need to come into the room at all? Would it not be reasonable for the drink station / fridge / machine to be moved so there's no interaction necessary?

Tellyare you the guy? OP definitely report him! Why are you even concerned about his job? He doesn't give a fuck about your job! If he does lose his job it'll be through his own actions, no other reason. He's obviously taunting you. Stand up for yourself! No idea why you're even questioning it, you know he needs reporting again.