I've found myself in two similar situations with two different friends/acquaintances.
- Someone I've known since secondary school, same friendship group but no friendship independent of the group ie don't really text, never been out just the two of us in the 17+ years we've known each other. He's been trying to arrange a meet up for just the two of us and sent some really intense messages ("I'll clear my diary for you, don't care when/what we do but just want to spend time with you etc). If he wasn't gay I'd think he was trying it on! I actually find him quite hard work (weird sense of humour and quite over bearing) so don't really want to invest in building our friendship up. Want to put a pin in it before I feel like I need to meet him despite not wanting to. WWYD?
- Ex-colleague, don't have much in common but worked together for about a year. Find her a bit scatty, not interested in my life and I'm not really interested in hers. No mutual friends. Meet up every 2-3 months for lunch or coffee and I always leave thinking what a waste of time it's been. She drives the friendship but I'd be happier to let it faze out. How do I do this?