DD so upset about help from school

[eleventwinkles]

My DD who is 9 is really upset about her teacher giving her worksheets that are slightly different (easier) to the rest of the class. She's come out of school in tears saying it's unfair that she is given different work. She thinks the teacher is not letting her try.

The back story is that she is on the SEN register and as far as I can tell has issues with processing and listening.
She is in the first year of secondary school so I think she is becoming aware of her peers seeing her as 'different'.

I have spoken with the teacher about this and she is also aware that this is an issue for my DD. She has explained that there are times when the different worksheets really are necessary and has herself talked to my DD about this.

I have done my best at talking this through with her as sensitively as I can but she is very emotionally mature and thinks that she is being patronised. My DD is very over emotional so this to her is horrendous.

I'm not sure how to deal with this anymore.

Any ideas would be greatly appreciated so thanks.

I think that will be my next option.
She came home last week saying she had been told to colour in a picture of Saturn while others were asked to 'design a planet'. This seems very strange so I will need to speak with her teacher again.
I've actually noticed that she's been picking at her legs a lot and there are 2 scabs that I think she has scratched onto herself. This really worry's me as I think it's a way of releasing her frustrations.
I would like to approach the school about this but feel that I will lose her trust as she doesn't want any further drama from the teachers. This will obviously trigger a response and I know she will hate this and it may make her emotional response worse. Not sure what to do for the best now

in my son's school, all children are usually given a choice of three challenges ranging in difficulty and they are encouraged to pick the most difficult they can manage but they dont get penalised for picking the easiest one.

It is harsh but it is just a fact of life that not everyone can be good at everything .Crying about it won't change anything, your DD needs to learn to accept it.

Can you ask the teacher to give her the easier and the harder.

that would be setting her up to fail