heya.. need some advice/support of what to do.
So I’ve started dating a guy in the last month, met him on Grindr and we spoke for ages before we met. Got on brilliantly and swapped numbers and chatted more before we planned our first date.
Went and had a great date, and subsequently several others. Got on really well and I genuinely saw the possibility of more. We have similar interests, and we got on so well.
So last night, after we’d had a date, I walked him home to by his, and then we sat having a chat n a fag on the wall. He was pretty upset, he’d been quiet more than usual, and I asked him what was up.
He said He was worried that if I’m the future things didn’t work out between us that I’d just call it time and not be friends with him. But then he dropped his even bigger news that he was already married and that his ex wasn’t going to be in the picture for a while. (Detained)
He said I can hate him, but I don’t.. I love him a bit- like it’s not full blown love that’s built over years but it’s feelings and caring love like. But I know it’s not right to cheat and I don’t want to be the other guy. But it’s hard because I do have feelings for him, and I do feel we connected so I don’t know what to do? Like maybe I could ask him to finish with his husband n try things giving things a shot with me?
Should I just walk away now, it’ll b hard n hurt but I know it’s not fair to cheat? Should I just go to a friends only relationship or cut all contact?
Please be gentle cos I’m pretty hurt already n I do know right from wrong. If I’d known from the start, I’d of avoided this guy cos I feel he’s just getting his cake and eating it. But i felt something there I haven’t ever had in previous relationships. Just like the connection. 