Just realised my neighbour is a former 1NS

[ThatsAwkward]

As the title says. We’ve been here 2 and a half years and his house backs onto mine a little.
His son has started the local pre school and I recognised the name, we used to work together so not a unknown one night stand (which is as pretty terrible as I remember it due to the extreme amount of alcohol consumed) anyway I’ve never really paid much attention to that side until today where I heard him call his sons fairly unusual name and it dawned on me. I looked over as you can see into their garden a little.. Yep no mistaking it, it’s him!

So as we’re both now in happy marriages with children, and we’ve lived unknowingly (from my perspective) side by side pretty much for 2 years, would you tell your spouse?

I’m mortified and as they have a fairly clear view of our garden I’ve been sticking to the areas he can’t see!!! I mean what are the odds of that, we’re 5 miles away from where we worked together! I can’t believe it

Oh gosh, I honestly can't understand the embarrassment here! Presumably nobody cheated on anyone else, so it's a bit of a non-event, especially as it took place so long ago!

sorry..what's 1NS ?

One night stand twizz.
Why would you tell your husband?

Cheers @Cocolepew

And god no !! There's no need

I would tell my partner because he would find it amusing. Why would you not mention it to your DH?

Why would you tell your spouse?
It's no big deal really. Hopefully you were both single when you had the 1NS
so no harm done I would say.
If you do bump into him treat him as a ex co-worker and nothing more.
Erase anything else from your mind.
Stop hiding in your garden! It's so not a big deal.

You've managed to go for 2.5 years without realising, so it is up to you how much of a drama you want to make out of it now.

What would be amusing about it, Assassinated?

Oh blimey i thought it was a boy band. like JLS.

Many of us have a past with 'liaisons' we regret. I'd not mention this if I were you to DH. Try to put it out of your mind, if you can. You've been there 2 1/2 years and have only just found out so it really shouldn't affect you. The past is the past, so leave it there. He may well have forgotten all about it so, 'less said, soonest mended.'

Why, @Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar ?

You’ve lived 2+ yr next to your ONS.oblivious to fact he was there.
Why pipe up now unless you like making something out of nowt
It’s a non-event dating back before you got married.

It's a question? Wondering at who would find this entertaining.

It’s just one of those things, it happens, not worth even thinking about IMO.

I’m a primary teacher and one year had a new child in class whose Dad’s face was familiar but couldn’t quite place it. Wasn’t until he was sat right in front of me at parents evening when I remembered. I was as red as a beetroot by the end of the appointment

The point was that it's nothing to make a big deal out of. My DP knows my past, and would understand why I was embarrassed and probably find it amusing that we had never noticed the close proximity.

Due to my chequered past if I worried about that I'd never get anything done!

I'm with @assassinated on this one - I would find it hilarious, and have done in the past in similar situations (although it's more bumping into people unexpectedly thanliving next door) - I generally find the slight embarrassment that accompanies recognising a former ONS amusing rather than mortifying.

Does that answer your question @Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar or had you assumed that everyone up until now reacts to situations in exactly the same way you would?

Why tell your husband? What purpose would it serve? You did nothing wrong and it’s in the past.