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My best friends husband

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someonewhowonders · 21/04/2018 12:47

I'm a very shy and cautious person, I really find it hard to talk to people sometimes if the conversation is dry, although I always make an effort to talk to people (I'm not rude!). Yesterday when doing the afternoon school pick up, I saw my best friends husband. He's just had stomach surgery and asked him how he was, as you do. But the conversation drifted to his work.. Convo then kinda dwindled off after he explained what was happening (various issues/problems I know about already) and then I had no idea what to say to him! I feel like such a dork when this happens. my friend tells me alot of private stuff which I obviously can't talk to him about and I know more about him than he knows! I love her to bits and I really like him (as a friend only) but I sometimes feel so out of my depth talking to him! I really don't want him to think his wife is friends with a nutter! Anyone else feel similar and how'd you deal with it?!

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Theworldisfullofgs · 21/04/2018 12:51

It's not you. It takes 2 to make a conversation. What did he ask you about you?

someonewhowonders · 21/04/2018 12:59

@Theworldisfullofgs Nothing but then he doesn't too often.

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Theworldisfullofgs · 21/04/2018 13:14

Those "conversations' are always difficult. Ask him what he thinks about a neutral topic?

someonewhowonders · 21/04/2018 13:38

I always make an effort to talk to him about anything. Mostly it's about stupid random junk tho, or stuff I already know about from his wife. I guess I kinda feel a bit inferior when I talk to him lol but I have no idea why!!!!

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SelkieUnderLand · 21/04/2018 13:42

Just smile, nod and stand there in silent insouciance. Don't kill yourself making small talk with husbands.

Theworldisfullofgs · 21/04/2018 14:46

Lots of us do that comparison stuff. Just know you are better at conversation than him .

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