I have got myself into a bit of a messy situation and coukd use some advice. So my husband works full time and I work part time so I can look after our DD. A little while before Christmas I was offered a big promotion at work something I really wanted but I had to change my hours to get it. The change was that instead of working one shift every other weekend I would work two. So one week I have the weekend off and the next I’d work Saturday and Sunday and take it in turns like that. I thought that sounded good as my husband is at home on weekends so can have DD and it’s not like I would be at work all day plus I still got guaranteed every other weekend off. My husband was not happy with these new hours and demanded I did not agree to them. I was only going to get the new job if I agreed so I hoped my husband would see sense and let me do it. I ended up agreeing to the change and my husband never did come round. He doesn’t know I agreed I couldn’t bring myself to tell him and for the last couple of months I have making up why I’m going to work or making out Iv gone somewhere else when I’m really at work. He says if i work every other weekend I’m choosing work over him and don’t love him anymore. I couldn’t love him more and I hate myself so much for lying to him. I hate it when we argue so I find it hard to talk to him about stuff all I get is the silent treatment. He hates it if I cry too. So I have made the situation worse and now facing the reality again that I need to work tomorrow morning and he thinks I’m not working. When I tell him I am when my alarm goes off he won’t speak to me for the next couple of days which I deserve. I need help ............