Am I being sensitive because she forgot

[AmIASnowflake]

My best friend hasn't asked me if I passed my driving test a week ago.

We live opposite ends of the country and talk on FaceTime or text.

I know it's not MAJOR to some people but it was big to me.

Really would have changed my life and the build up to doing an intensive course and the cost have been epic and something we've discussed.

She tunes out a lot of the time. She was surprised to hear i had already done 100 hours of lessons despite the fact we discussed how I was getting on and I was asking her advice.

I told a handful of people and all of them seemed interested during the week and got in contact on test day to ask how it was or to send luck.

She called the day before the course started and again seemed surprised when I told her It began tomorrow. She's not enquired about how I was getting on and I feel she just doesn't care as doesn't affect or involve her.

It's blatantly obvious she's forgotten. I'm retaking it soon and I'm just seeing how long it takes her, if at all to remember. She's been in contact about clothes so it's not like she's AWOL.

Am I being too sensitive thou? Is it a case of we all have a busy life.

She probably doesn’t like to ask in case you failed, so she is waiting for you to tell her.

I think you're being a bit sensitive (and I say that as someone who is quite sensitive). She might not want to ask, she might be really busy...

Don't hold out to sort of test her. That's not a nice dynamic in a friendship.

You sound massively self absorbed. She's a friend, doesn't mean she has to memorise all the dates you're doing random shit on. It's not even like a birthday or something, you had a driving test ffs. Ring her up and share your good news, she'll be happy for you. It's not her job to note the dates and chase you up for results! For goodness sake get over yourself.

She probably thinks you don’t want to talk about it (some people don’t if they fail) so deliberately hasn’t mentioned it.

Unless this is part of something wider and she generally takes no interest in your life then I think you’re being a bit over sensitive. It’s a little bizarre and very passive aggressive that you’re planning on testing her.

Maybe she thinks you failed and doesn’t want to bring it up?

I dont think its a big enough thing to be bothered about. If your child or a parent was very ill in hospital and she didnt ask how they were doing then I'd be upset about that.Or something else very serious.
A driving test is more a day to day thing, shes probably just forgotton.If she not generally interested in things you have to say then maybe shes not a close or best friend as such and you need to lower your expectations.

Well, from what you say it could be either that (a) you're a bit self-absorbed, and chunter on about your own affairs in detail a lot, which is why she tunes out OR (b) she's self-absorbed, and not that interested in your stuff OR (c) she thinks that if you want to tell her something, you will OR (d) she thinks you have failed, and doesn't want to bring it up in case it upsets you.

Only you can say.

If she's normally thoughtful, I would guess she thinks you'd have told her that night if you'd passed and because she heard nothing, she supposed you had failed and were too disappointed to raise it?
Good luck second time around.

Ok thanks everyone. I do think I am a bit sensitive, more than the average person and obviously it's no major someone's in hospital scenario...

I think this may be a wider issue which has sparked off this wondering . I don't usually get a word in with her and to be honest, don't often have anything exciting going on to tell. I think I need to just lower my expectations

Did you pass ? The fact you haven’t said so on here makes me think you haven’t . I would avoid asking too.

No I didn't pass - sorry if that wasn't clear in original post. Retaking in couple of weeks

Maybe she is waiting for you to call so you can talk to her about it . I suspect she would assume you would of at least messaged if you passed.

Good luck for retake