I'm pregnant with my second child. Knowing that I have to have a c-section I asked my mum for some help after the baby was born. She agreed and everything was settled and then she announced she had booked a holiday and was planning to look after my brother's gfs child during the time she had agreed to help me out. This isn't unusual behaviour for her, she is incredibly selfish and normally to keep the peace I just ignore it but I feel that she has let me down. I confronted her about it only to be accused of using her like a maid and a nanny. She does very little for us. She sees my child always in my house while we cook her dinner and run round after her. She never volunteers to help us out or take my child out for the afternoon or anything. We pointed this out to her and she responded by calling my husband an unfit father and telling us that the home we provide isn't fit for our children. What is worse is that she has gone to all my family members spreading lies and shit stirring and my whole family has ostracised me. I am so angry at all of them. I wish I could just cut them all out to be honest but I feel that my child should not be denied access to his grandma. I don't know how to let go of the anger and move on. It is putting a black cloud over my pregnancy and the stress of dealing with it has made me quite ill. I've been admitted into hospital a few times now and I feel certain that the stress of dealing with this is the cause. How do I move on and stop letting it affect me?