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help needed, advise what would you do??

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Happy1nurse · 08/04/2018 00:00

ok, help is needed, i am a single mum to 5 children, 2 of which are adults. i live in a beautiful village, and I work only 4 miles away, as a community nurse.
2 of my small children are at the local school, and my son goes to nursery.

The school offers no breakfast and after school club, 1 childminder lives local which I use. I have no other options, other then a local nursery which charges 25 pounds a day each child.

my 2 little ones 5 &3 have same dad, however my 8 has lost her daddy, and life is for her (sorry)

quick history, my 8 year old was 15 months old when ex and i got together, she has mainly called him daddy. her dad did not wish to be involved. so happily had 2 children with ex, during my 6 months pregnancy the ex cheated on me, with no return . he kind of has had children when feel feels ready to 1 over night day every fortnight. all 3 children, this started last aug. December 23rd he tells 8 year old he no longer wants her, as not his. And refused her any Christmas presents. Its hell. I have very little support if any, the odd friend who offers adhock, and my daughters whom, are willing to help from time to time.

So, I always said once the 2nd daughter reaches 18 leaves school I will move south if I was alone to do so.
that time is here...

Do I risk everything, a little child support I do have with friends and the ex, to live the dream???
Girls are in a fantastic school. i have amazing job. But I hate the house, I hate living here and trying to find love again. i could move within Northamptonshire, but feel this would be difficult, and maybe also wonder what if.
I am very lucky to own my house, with a small mortgage of which i have options of renting or buying with a 300k budget. This will allow me to be mortgage free.
and where do i start. south could be Southampton pool Bournemouth love village life and good schools and need a job to ?? any advise appreciated have you do it??

by risk everything, i don't think the ex will want to come 2.5 hours to visit children. childcare issue will also be a big consideration.

look forward to advise amanda

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