Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Was I being unreasonable asking my housemates gfriend to not stay over all the time

4 replies

Beemi · 06/04/2018 05:09

Two weeks ago I asked my housemate to split his time at ours and his girlfriends place as she was staying over nearly every night...he hasn’t spoke to me since and she has been ignoring me when she stays over. We live in a small flat where the bedrooms are seperated by a plasterboard wall. I hear everything and they talk till 12pm at night on work nights. It keeps me awake and I’m knackered the next day. She also stayed 6 nights one week and 5 nights the next week which I thought was way too much considering she doesn’t pay rent or bills at mine nor does she contribute to trivial things like toilet roll or cleaning and for the fact she has her own place too. I asked my housemate iff he could stay at hers some nights rather than her be over all the time and he immediately went into a foul mood. We live in the city and she lives out in the suburbs and I recon he is more annoyed about that as he doesn’t drive and has to set off earlier to get too work than usual. Anyway both of them haven’t spoke to me and I feel so uncomfortable in my own house, it’s got to a stage where I tried putting out an olive branch to try and settle this but too no avail. They look at me like I am in the wrong and I should have let them carry on with her basically living with us. They are 34 and 26 by the way not teenagers ha. Was I in the wrong? Should I have said anything? How can I settle this?

OP posts:
Twooter · 06/04/2018 05:18

No, you weren’t in the wrong, but I would look to move out/ get a new housemate.

BalloonFlowers · 06/04/2018 05:25

Well, they either pay double rent, as there are 2 of them living there, or they move out.
Totally reasonable request.

Beemi · 06/04/2018 05:44

It’s looking that way eh. I’m trying to avoid that though as we have the same friend circle too.

OP posts:
YimminiYoudar · 06/04/2018 07:21

Yanbu and that's an untenable situation, but the solution isn't for them to move to the suburbs, it is for you to move out. Start flathunting.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page