Disappointed in friend

[Erewegoagainandagain]

Someone I considered one of my closest friends seems to have gone cold on me since I had another baby.

She has teens, as do I, so It's not as though we have nothing in common anymore. It's not jealousy as she definitely doesn't want any more kids and is happy with the number she has. However, she always seems too busy to meet up and, on the rare occasions we do, seems totally disinterested in DD - I swear I caught her rolling her eyes once when her conversation flow was interrupted due to me needing to attend to DD!

Judging by her Facebook feed, although she hasn't actually said, I suspect she would prefer to meet in the evening minus kids in the pub. Unfortunately, that's logistically tricky for me. Besides, I'm knackered and not keen on drinking alcohol these days.

I have other less close friends in a similar position to her who have been far more interested and involved. I'm so disappointed in her, It's really not what I expected at all. I had always thought she would be godmother - certainly not now, she hardly knows DD!

So do I carry on letting her reject me all the time, confront her or just not bother with her at all? I feel so torn as she was once a lovely friend

Although you both have teens it sounds as if you are at different stages of life - she's got her freedom back and wants to go to the pub, you're back in the baby years with all that entails. If she was a good friend before hang on, once your youngest is older you might find you're back on the same page again. Disappointing though when you expect a friendship to adapt to every stage of life and it doesn't.

I also think that your lives are a different stages now, maybe just try to meet up for coffee at lunch without any kids.

I had a friend who I have a long friendship history with that was always surrounded in drama. And deveined morals I didn't agree with (dif men coming home each night and her child seeing them come and go) I got tired of picking up the pieces and she was very selfish and I had tolerated it for too long. As soon as she found a new partner got married and had a child I distanced myself, there hasn't been A fall out we just have different lives.

It is sad sometimes but friendships don't always last forever. You had a lot in common, now you don't. Tbh after having three kids with a ten year age range I have zero interest in hanging out with people with babies and small children now my youngest is 15. I am enjoying not having to accommodate young children before I get back in the zone once grandkids arrive 😁 in MN world that makes me a horrible person, in real life it is normal. If your friend is suggesting meeting without your baby she clearly still wants to be friends but doesn't want the baby thing. If you don't want the friendship on those terms that is your choice.