I just wanted to get other people's views. My daughter's dad and i have broke up 3 times now, only once before our daughter. She was unplanned so we didn't consciously decide to have kids, we'd only been going out 18 months. We moved in, had a baby and then moved out after a year because i couldn't bear to live with him.
I fell out of love with him, hated how messy he was, hated how he couldn't support us financially so i moved to my mum's. For the next year we carried on having sex, and then he gave me an ultimatum. So i got back with him for 9 months, i was in my own place and he stayed a few times a week.
But i keep coming back to the point that we're not right for each other and I'm still not in love with him. I don't know why though as i do love being a family. So now we're apart again and he's guilting me, well trying to, to get back together. But i really don't want to. I just feel bad though as he sees his daughter less, and i can't bear seeing him so hurt.
I've said to see our daughter 3 times a week, but she can't stay at his during week as he works odd hours. So he gets a few hours once or twice during the week if his job allows then a day and overnight at weekend. But i still feel so guilty about this like it's not enough. Do you think this is fair? I don't want it to be every other weekend type thing. I couldn't bear them not seeing each other every few days.
Am i right in splitting up and how do i handle all this guilt? I am gutted, i just can't be with him. And is the arrangement with our daughter a good one?
Thanks