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Is this weird?

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Shazzasp · 19/03/2018 11:25

My partner & I have been invited to a 21st birthday party. His ex wife is also going as they are the girls God parents. I don't have a problem with his ex wife as she is really nice. But she wants to stay at our house the night as it is nearer to the venue. His two grown-up daughters and granddaughter are going to be staying also. I'm not sure what to say. I think it's weird but my partner is fine with it. What would you do.?

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bannanapeppers · 19/03/2018 11:29

i wouldnt op. are you and her on good terms

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Shazzasp · 19/03/2018 12:40

I like her. We get on well. But I wouldn't say we were best buddies.

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MauriceTheSpaceCowboy · 19/03/2018 12:41

I’d be ok with that, but your house your rules really. I can understand why some people wouldn’t like it.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 19/03/2018 12:45

It needn’t be weird. It’s just for one night. But I think if you are really uncomfortable with it, then say no. Does she have a partner?

ems137 · 19/03/2018 12:46

Very weird in my opinion but then only you know what your relationship with her is like.

MF49 · 19/03/2018 13:05

Hmm, I would find this strange and also find it more strange that she has asked to stay. I feel like there has to be boundaries, and this is something that would make me uncomfortable. I think what you need to ask yourself, what part of this situation makes you feel most uncomfortable? If it's something that will ruin your night or make you feel weird in your own house then I would find a way of declining (not enough room, etc.) Also would this really be a one off, or would she make herself more welcome after this over night stay? Only you really know your situation with her and your husband, so if you don't see it as a threat or imposing then why not but it's something that wouldn't sit too well with me.

ziggiestardust · 19/03/2018 13:10

I think I’d be worried that she was going to judge me on every little thing I did... which would be more on me than her I know but hey!

Isnt your house going to be quite full as it is? I would try and make an excuse to be honest; spare bed broken/heating broken in that room/no space to spare/damp in the spare room... and then shut the door and lock it so no one can find out Wink

If it makes you uncomfortable; really don’t do it. I find it a bit odd she’s asked tbh. I know I wouldn’t; even if I were on good terms!

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Shazzasp · 18/04/2018 13:54

It went ok. But wouldn't want to make a habit of it!

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