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Emotional affair

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Sup3rnan · 18/03/2018 17:38

Question one
Should a person continue with an emotional affair during a marriage breakup while still cohabiting with their partner.
Note:
The third party became intense when they found out about the separation.
Face timing constantly.
There has also been a family bereavement which this person has also focused on.
Question Two
Do you think they are genuine

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KittenBeast · 18/03/2018 17:43

In answer to question one - no.

In answer to question two - they probably think they are genuine, but emotional affairs tend not to last, especially if the couple eventually get together. It's rose tinted specs.

Not knowing all the specifics it's hard to say. What was the reason for the break up? How long has the affair been going on?

Sup3rnan · 18/03/2018 18:13

Break up happened at Christmas. Lack of attention. Belittling behaviour towards the wife.
The person engaging started to give full attention when the breakup happened but befriended her about 3 months before. Constantly praising her and her posts on Instagram

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KittenBeast · 18/03/2018 19:29

Oh ok, so the wife has broken up with the husband because he was an arsehole to her, and she's now in a 'relationship' with someone else, but the husband still lives with her, eek, what a situation, is the husband aware that the wife is having this relationship? why isn't he moving out?

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Sup3rnan · 18/03/2018 19:54

Possibility he knows but not 100% sure.
He hasn't moved out because was changing jobs and has no where to live. In separate rooms but very tense situation.
She has low self esteem and lacks confidence.
The 3rd party has said he will come to uk in August to meet up. Says he loves her, wants to marry her.
He's creepy

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KittenBeast · 18/03/2018 20:07

Oh that's dodgy, I would tell her to get out, the husband needs to go and I don't think she should be in a relationship with some guy who doesn't live in the UK and she's never met, these blokes prey on insecure women, I'm guessing he wants UK citizenship.

Sup3rnan · 18/03/2018 20:26

Thank you. Someone who is thinking the same as me.
Her husband isn't physically aggressive. He's Verbally aggressive and puts her down. Sadly she is not listening to any reasonable advice.
I will stay close and support her until I find a solution

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