Changing dd name

[Nkhutch]

Me and dp have long talked about getting married one day. Dd has her fathers last name which I have always said a child should have dads last name. Anyway, during a conversation with dp dd overheard and was sayin she will also have dp's name. I corrected her and told her her last name is "......". She asked why she would have a different name and I told her if she would like to she could double barrel her name and have both her current last name and dp's last name after we got married. She seemed to really like this idea, although I did tell her we would have to talk to her dad about this first before hand. Me and dds dad don't always get on and I can see him being a bit spiteful and not agreeing to it. What would you guys do if he said no? I wouldn't want dd to be unhappy because she has a complete different last name.
I would just like to point out too our original plan was dd to obviously keep her last name and it's her who wants to change it and I am adamant with her she would be keeping her current last name and only adding dp's and mine to hers

Double barrelling would be perfect. Your ex might try to make it difficult but at the end of the day, you're not taking his name away & your daughter will be happy. Remind him of that if he gets awkward. He doesn't have to refer to her by the extra name if he chooses not to but if she is keen, what logical reason has he to refuse her?!

@someonewhowonders thankyou! He isn't logical at the best of times and would probably see it as him being pushed out or would thing it would give dp parental rights but I think if it's what dd wants I want to give it her and we are expanding our family and want her to feel included in it

@someonewhowonders thankyou! He isn't logical at the best of times and would probably see it as him being pushed out or would thing it would give dp parental rights but I think if it's what dd wants I want to give it her and we are expanding our family and want her to feel included in it

He won't like it but at the end of the day his daughter wants to have the same name as you so it's unfair to refuse her. She's also got his with double barrelling but as I say, he doesn't (and probably won't) have to use the new additional name. Years ago my aunt and uncle split and my cousins went double barrelled. My uncle didn't like it but he accepted it. They only tend to use my aunts part of the name now (or at least the boy does as the girls are married) but that's more because my uncles part of the name (also my maiden name) is horrible! For your daughter though, I think it would be a bit cruel for her to be the only child with a different name as your new family grows and they have your name but not her.