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FOUND EMAILS FROM BOYFRIEND TO EX WIFE

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Zippy1114 · 12/03/2018 11:30

A few nights ago i went on my partners laptop as I had been doing for the last week as mine is broken and currently away for repair. I typed in gmail to bring up my email as normal and it bought up a gmail account for him which I didn’t know he had. I saw a load of emails between him and his ex wife. The emails were between 2011 and 2014. We have been together since 2010 and they have been divorced 5 years before that. I read them as anyone would to find that 4 weeks after having our first son he was telling her how much he missed her and forever wished things were different between them. Other mails whilst I was pregnant in 2013 saying how he still had the dreams of them being together and growing old together, walking down the beach hand in hand together, how he couldn’t control himself around her and he knew he shouldn’t be saying all this but couldn’t stop himself. He was saying he had often thought about going over and how he was finding it so hard to stay away. The emails back were kind of the same but not as strong from her. I know this was 2011 to 2014 but I am in bits, I’m heartbroken, feel like Ive been cheated on. I just cant stop crying any words of advice or support would be greatly appreciated. Im literally feeling broken. I have told him I have seen them and he hasnt denied it bexause he cant just said he cant really remember sending them. We are still needing to have a propper sit down chat about it all. Any advice or kind words appreciated x

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Emma198 · 12/03/2018 12:50

So sorry to hear this OP. The fact it was logged in when you went on the gmail site suggests he's been looking at them recently too? I think you need to talk to him about it. He can't deny it, you've seen too much. Do you think it was just emails or physical?

Beautifulflower18 · 18/04/2018 16:48

Sorry to hear . You need to sit down and talk and get him to explain why he done it don't let him fob you off with he can't remember sending it when clearly he does as he was still logged on gmail I would of checked the deleted part as well maybe more op and course you will feel cheated on cause you have been it might not be physical but emotional you have still cheating . Cause he hid it from you just think if your laptop had not broke and gone for repairs he would of never told you about it . Just don't let him make excuses for what he done he won't like being put on the spot

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 18/04/2018 17:26

He said he can't really remember sending them? Bollocks.

That 'might' wash if it was one email, late at night after drinking, but multiple emails over several years?

Sorry OP, I would suggest he gets back together with his fucking ex in that case! Do not let him squirm his way out of this, you have every right to be furious and hurt and angry and to feel cheated on. Because emotionally he has, and he has torpedoed your relationship.

So sorry. Flowers

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MadMags · 18/04/2018 17:29

The fact that he can be so disrespectful as to pretend he can’t remember sending them is truly reprehensible.

Madwithjealousy · 18/04/2018 17:37

I feel sick on your behalf. I've been through similar and it doesn't really matter that it's historical.

If these men are still hung up on their exes why on earth do they start new relationships which inevitably end up hurting their new partner. I'd rather they were just honest.

He is lying about not remembering sending them; they'll say anything to worm their way out.

So sorry for you xx

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