I have never got on with my mother. I was the scapegoat, treated differently from my siblings, was told she wished she had aborted me etc. I left home as early as I could, have made my own way. I haven't cut off my mother as such, but rarely see her.
An aunt is celebrating her Gold Wedding anniversary soon. It is a big family event with a sit down meal. Her daughter, my cousin, who has always been a bit of a troublemaker, is delighting in telling me how difficult it is for her mother to arrange the seating because "there may be trouble" if she sat me near my mother!
I have never caused trouble in my life. I suck up my mother's abusive comments because I hate public scenes. Maybe aunt means that my mother would cause trouble, I don't know.
Anyway, apparently it is causing a huge issue and spoiling the planning. Shall I just say I won't go? Problem solved then. I don't care one way or the other but DP says it's not fair that I miss out because of something that is not my fault and my mother would have achieved what she always wanted - me not involved with family.
(For the record, if I don't go, mother would tell everyone how rude I was anyway...)